WHAT'S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?

Valentine's Day is a silly commercial holiday that causes all of us guilt if we don't partake in celebrating by purchasing gifts and cards for our loved one. But, Real Love is not about material objects. It is not a second hand emotion. It isn't a passing feeling. Rather, it's a deep pervasive feeling that is ever present. Many components comprise a good loving relationship. Of course, there is the physical: how one looks and how you feel about their appearance. You may consider that shallow, but if you aren't attracted to the person, nothing else can follow. Once you've established an attraction, the rest is a bit more complicated. In order to have a lasting and passionate relationship, there are so many elements that must exist. First and foremost, you must have patience! Everyday isn't a party-sometimes you piss each other off. That's where perserverce and endurance come into play! Eventually, you need to set aside your annoyance. You are going to need to listen to your partner. Really listen-Everyone wants to feel seen and to feel heard. Communication is key. You must be open with each other, have no secrets, be fully transparent, and be willing to show your vulnerability. Don't hold back-it only breeds resentment. In conjunction with Communication, we must respect each other. Do you value your partner's opinions? Do you support each other's independence? Do you acknowledge their boundaries? We must be able to compromise and sacrifice for each other. This is especially important when you don't necessarily agree with their stance about an issue. Then, there's the intellectual attraction-just as important as the physical! Do you like his/her mind? Do they keep you on your toes? Do they challenge you? All-so very important. Additionally, commitment and trust are essential. Can you depend on your partner? Do they have your back? Do you always feel safe with him/her? If all of these pieces fit into place, the fun part follows. Remember to show each other affection, be romantic, perform acts of kindness, show compassion, hold hands, have fun and laugh together. This person should be your best friend as well as your lover. One other important note-Each of us must take care of our own health. In order to be present for your partner, it is essential that we are diligent about our own well being. Your partner will be grateful! Wishing all of you a Happy Valentine's Day! HOW DO I LOVE THEE? LET ME COUNT THE WAYS. I LOVE THEE TO THE DEPTH AND BREADTH AND HEIGHT MY SOUL CAN REACH, WHEN FEELING OUT OF SIGHT FOR THE ENDS OFBEING AND IDEAL GRACE. MOST QUIET NEED, BY SUN AND CANDLE LIGHT. I LOVE THEE FREELY, AS MEN STRIVE FOR RIGHT. I LOVE THEE PURELY, AS THEY TURN FROM PRAISE. I LOVE THEE WITH THE PASSION PUT TO USE IN MY OLD GRIEFS, AND WITH MY CHILDHOOD'S FAITH. I LOVE THEE WITH A LOVE I SEEMED TO LOSE WITH MY LOST SAINTS. I LOVE THEE WITH THE BREATH, SMILES, TEARS, OF ALL MY LIFE; AND, IF GOD CHOOSE, I SHALL BUT LOVE THEE BETTER AFTER DEATH. BY ELIZABETH BARRETT BROWNING PEACE OUT-ONE B