Several weeks ago, my first born and her husband, said they were driving out to N.J.(they don't own a car-they "zip" ) and wanted to stop by. It is not the norm, especially the traveling by rental car and not the train. I don't know why, but I didn't suspect a thing. You should probably know that I am not a mom who ever delves into my kid's personal lives. All my friends always knew who their kids were dating, how serious their relationships were, and once they were married, when and if they were trying to get pregnant, and how long they had been trying. I have never asked any of those questions. It's not that I don't care, because I really really do care. It's just that my daughters are strong, independent women who are not very forthright with personal information. If they wanted me to know something or needed my advice, they would ask. But, I did start noticing that my daughter wasn't starting the meal with a cocktail, OR she would reply when asked if she would like a glass of wine, " maybe later", OR she would order a drink and by the end of the meal it was untouched. OR by the end of the meal, her husband was feeling no pain because he would take one for the team ( he would drink hers and his!) So I had a sneaking suspicion, she might be trying to get pregnant or could be already.
Lo and Behold-the reason for their rental car visit to New Jersey was to announce to us and my son-in-law's parents that they were expecting. I can't express the joy, excitement, and happiness both my husband and I felt at that moment!! Our baby was having her own baby. As a parent of daughters, you look forward to two things (besides hoping for high school, college and graduate school degrees!): 1)planning their weddings and 2) welcoming their children (your grandchildren) into this world.
I have been fortunate enough to have the wedding planning experiences for both my girls, I have been fortunate enough that they are married to, and about to be marrying, amazing men. So, the next order of business, meeting my grandkids!
I want to tell my daughter, that there is no greater feeling in this world, than the first time you hold your baby in your arms. Having children changes your lives forever, but only for the better. I was a very laid back kid, teen, and adult, UNTIL my children came along. My daughters don't believe that this hyperactive, organized, mom was ever anything but type A. But I was a hippie and truthfully, when your first is born, you do change. You can't help worrying more. You love your child more than anything in the whole world. You want everything to be all right all the time. You don't want sickness, or unhappiness EVER. All we want as parents and now soon to be grandparents is for these precious beings to be happy, healthy, and successful for a very long time. We can't wait to meet this first grandchild. If she/he is anything like her/his spectacular parents, this is going to be one extraordinary person!
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