🚸With all this time on my hands, I have been watching even more tv than my usual amount. Lately, I prefer movies or shorter series because my attention span isn't great these days.
First I'll suggest some good shows for the KIDS:
Hamilton-on Disney Plus. My grandsons give it 2 thumbs up and will sing you the entire score!
The Baby Sitter's Club-on Netflix. I just watched the series so I could discuss it with my grandchildren, and thought it was terrific. Many lessons are taught and it's fun to watch.
The Secret Garden(2020)-on Netflix. Haven't watched. A child's parents suddenly dies and she moves to her Aunt and Uncle's home where a magical garden exists.
Recently watched MOVIES:
Da Five Bloods-on Netflix. Amazing performance by Delroy Lindo. About Vietnam and a heist.
The King of Staten Island-on Prime. Autobiography of Pete Davidson from Saturday Night Live. Comedy/drama. I liked this but recommend it for the 50 and under crowd and/or fans of SNL.
The Truth-on Netflix. Starring Catherine Deneuve, Juliette Binoche and Ethan Hawke. Mother daughter drama. Great cast. Deneuve is fabulous to watch.
Shirley-on Hulu. Elisabeth Moss stars as famed horror author Shirley Jackson. Moss is superb, but the movie is fair yet held my interest.
Hope Gap-on Amazon Prime. Intense story of Grace (Annette Bening) and her husband (Bill Nighy).
About a disintegrating marriage of 29 years. Excellent performances. Worth a watch.
Saving Face-on Amazon Prime. A story of a lesbian doctor navigating her love relationship and balancing her traditional mother and grandparent's views with her lifestyle. Thumbs up.
DOCUMENTARIES or SHOWS BASED ON A TRUE STORY:
David Foster: Off The Record-Netflix. Great profile on The grammy award winning composer and producer. You will be awed at how many famous people he has written or produced for! Streisand, Chicago, Stevie Wonder, Josh Groban, Michael Buble, Celine Dion, Andrea Bocelli and others.
Jeffrey Epstein: Filthy Rich-on Netflix. Extremely difficult to watch. Survivors of his abuse explain how he used his wealth and power to carry out atrocities. Not sure I can finish. Creepy....
Dirty John/The Betty Broderick Story-on USA. This isn't a documentary but based on the true story of a breakdown of a marriage that ends in a double homicide. Amanda Peet knocks it out of the ball park as Betty Broderick. Christian Slater plays her husband.
Quiz-AMC. Three part drama about a real couple who were accused of cheating their way to a million pounds on a Quiz Show in Britain.
Laurel Canyon-on Epix. Two part series about the musicians who lived in Laurel Canyon during the 60's and 70's. One of the best shows I've watched in the pandemic. It's really FABULOUS!
Lenox Hill-on Netflix. Documentary series about four doctors at Lenox Hill Hospital in NYC. If you ever need a neurosurgeon, check out both Dr. David Langer and Dr. John Boockvar. They are incredibly brilliant and caring and phenomenal physicians. Super interesting!
Mrs. America-on FX. The story of Phyllis Schlafly, who led the conservative movement to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment. Great Cast with Cate Blanchett, Rose Byrne, Uzo Aduba, Sarah Paulson, and Tracey Ullman.
JUST FOR THE ENTERTAINMENT:
Hollywood-on Netflix. Created by Ryan Murphy. Series about post WW II Hollywood and its aspiring actors and filmmakers. Fair but entertaining.
Never Have I Ever-on Netflix. Created by Mindy Kaling. Plot is about the complicated life of a first generation Indian American teen who is a sophomore in High School. Cute. Better for teens.
Greenleaf-on Own. This is the fifth season and one of my favorites. The story is about the Greenleaf family who runs a Memphis megachurch and the scandalous secrets of this supposedly close knit family.
Intersection-on Netflix. Basically a Turkish soap opera about 2 wealthy businessmen and how their lives cross paths. Each episode is VERY long and there are two seasons. So, it is a big investment of time. Many have raved about this-I don't get why. That being said I watched the entire two seasons! I got hooked. Beware-if you start it, you will probably want to finish!
The Politician-on Netflix. This is the second season. I've lost interest. Great Cast-Ben Platt, Gwyneth Paltrow, Jessica Lange, Bette Midler, Judith Light, and many others. Started out as smart and addictive. Downhill in the second season.
RECCOMENDATIONS FROM FRIENDS (THAT I HAVE NOT YET WATCHED)
The Umbrella Factor-on Netflix.
White Lines-on Netflix
Money Heist-on Netflix.
Lovelife-on HBO Max.
Greyhound-Apple TV plus. Tom Hanks new movie.
Escape to the Chateau-PBS. If you like renovations and old houses, this docuseries is supposed to be great!
World on Fire-on PBS. WWII drama following the everyday lives of people in five countries
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This should keep you busy for a while! Be well. Stay safe. Wear a mask!
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Sunday, July 19, 2020
Tuesday, June 30, 2020
STRENGTH WHISPERS. WEAKNESS SCREAMS (or tweets)
As the U.S. grapples with a major spike in corona cases in the South and the West, the European Union has banned Americans from traveling to Europe. This not only severely impacts the world's health but also the economy for Europe and America. We need a National Approach to this pandemic and fast. Even as cases surge in California, Texas and Florida, the administration has scaled back funding for federal testing and closed 13 testing sites. There are still not enough tests, not enough ICU beds, not enough PPE. How can that be after watching what has occurred in NY, NJ, and Conn.? We are the only country that is not capable of flattening the curve. We have failed. What does it mean that we cannot engage in self sacrifice to keep our people safe? Are we that selfish?
Trump is not exhibiting any acceptance that we are now the leading country with the most cases of Coronavirus in the world. The United States should DO better; we should BE better. This is all about public cooperation-everyone must comply. We must all wear masks when going out anywhere. We must practice social distancing all the time, not some of the time. Social Distancing is still not being taken seriously. We need to respectfully distance at outside social gatherings, and not make others feel uncomfortable by approaching them. We must wipe down surfaces and wash hands frequently. We can not let our guard down. This is far from over. So you think it's not happening to the elderly anymore because 17-35 year olds are the new target? Well, guess what? The 17-35 year olds visit their parents, grandparents, professors, and restaurants where they spread the disease unknowingly.
Governor Phil Murphy has decided to not resume indoor dining. Understandably, the restaurant owners are angry and upset by this decision. But, the fact is that when dining indoors, your risk of getting the virus is 20 times higher. He did the right thing, He is saving lives.
I recently had a lovely short respite from our everyday life. We went up to the Vineyard. Every single person I saw wore a mask. If you happened to leave your home and forgot to wear your mask, you were the pariah. Whether they were outside, walking alone, or entering a store (where you must sanitize before entering and they limit the quantity of people to 4 at a time) a mask was ALWAYS on. All outdoor restaurants had curbside pickup and if there were tables, they were spaced well over 6 feet away. They have it right. They respect each other and are keeping themselves and others safe.
We aren't capable of stopping our everyday lives. It is not a realistic expectation. There is work, camp, school, errands, sports, recreation, etc. We need to have positive leadership with role models in our government who will wear masks, not hold indoor rallies, or attend indoor choir performances. We must promote the same rules for each and every person and from state to state. We need to get back to some normalcy. Look at England, Italy, Spain....they have figured it out. They flattened the curve.
So what next? My grandchildren have started camp and are interacting with many kids. My children have dinner with friends outdoors. My club has outside dining. Swimming pools and beaches are open. My hair and nail salon have opened. Do I sit next to the kids? Do I get hair color or a blow out at a salon? How often should I go to the grocery store? Do I venture up to the club for a meal? Is it ok to go to the dentist or podiatrist? Truthfully, I am petrified. I want to do all of this, but I am very wary, because I am old. Because I have an elderly mom. Because I want to keep my husband, children, grandchildren and friends safe. I often say that your Coronavirus rules are similar to how people observe their religion. You must do what you feel comfortable with. Some people don't bring in takeout food, but they will go to the grocery store. Some people chat on the first tee and they are not socially distant or wearing a mask because they are "outside". Some people have friends over for dinner and sit at the same table and share communal snacks. Some people have their hair done in the garage but let their grandchildren sleep over. I do not judge what you want to do. But I insist that we all respect each other's individual preferences. You do You, but please respect Me. Respect is a choice. I pray we all make wise choices, and we keep well and safe.
Ooh child
Things are gonna get easier
Ooh child
Things'll get brighter
Some day. yeah
We'll put it together and we'll get it undone
Some day
When your head is much lighter
Some day, yeah
We'll walk in the rays of a beautiful sun
Some day
When the world is much brighter
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Trump is not exhibiting any acceptance that we are now the leading country with the most cases of Coronavirus in the world. The United States should DO better; we should BE better. This is all about public cooperation-everyone must comply. We must all wear masks when going out anywhere. We must practice social distancing all the time, not some of the time. Social Distancing is still not being taken seriously. We need to respectfully distance at outside social gatherings, and not make others feel uncomfortable by approaching them. We must wipe down surfaces and wash hands frequently. We can not let our guard down. This is far from over. So you think it's not happening to the elderly anymore because 17-35 year olds are the new target? Well, guess what? The 17-35 year olds visit their parents, grandparents, professors, and restaurants where they spread the disease unknowingly.
Governor Phil Murphy has decided to not resume indoor dining. Understandably, the restaurant owners are angry and upset by this decision. But, the fact is that when dining indoors, your risk of getting the virus is 20 times higher. He did the right thing, He is saving lives.
I recently had a lovely short respite from our everyday life. We went up to the Vineyard. Every single person I saw wore a mask. If you happened to leave your home and forgot to wear your mask, you were the pariah. Whether they were outside, walking alone, or entering a store (where you must sanitize before entering and they limit the quantity of people to 4 at a time) a mask was ALWAYS on. All outdoor restaurants had curbside pickup and if there were tables, they were spaced well over 6 feet away. They have it right. They respect each other and are keeping themselves and others safe.
We aren't capable of stopping our everyday lives. It is not a realistic expectation. There is work, camp, school, errands, sports, recreation, etc. We need to have positive leadership with role models in our government who will wear masks, not hold indoor rallies, or attend indoor choir performances. We must promote the same rules for each and every person and from state to state. We need to get back to some normalcy. Look at England, Italy, Spain....they have figured it out. They flattened the curve.
So what next? My grandchildren have started camp and are interacting with many kids. My children have dinner with friends outdoors. My club has outside dining. Swimming pools and beaches are open. My hair and nail salon have opened. Do I sit next to the kids? Do I get hair color or a blow out at a salon? How often should I go to the grocery store? Do I venture up to the club for a meal? Is it ok to go to the dentist or podiatrist? Truthfully, I am petrified. I want to do all of this, but I am very wary, because I am old. Because I have an elderly mom. Because I want to keep my husband, children, grandchildren and friends safe. I often say that your Coronavirus rules are similar to how people observe their religion. You must do what you feel comfortable with. Some people don't bring in takeout food, but they will go to the grocery store. Some people chat on the first tee and they are not socially distant or wearing a mask because they are "outside". Some people have friends over for dinner and sit at the same table and share communal snacks. Some people have their hair done in the garage but let their grandchildren sleep over. I do not judge what you want to do. But I insist that we all respect each other's individual preferences. You do You, but please respect Me. Respect is a choice. I pray we all make wise choices, and we keep well and safe.
Ooh child
Things are gonna get easier
Ooh child
Things'll get brighter
Some day. yeah
We'll put it together and we'll get it undone
Some day
When your head is much lighter
Some day, yeah
We'll walk in the rays of a beautiful sun
Some day
When the world is much brighter
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Wednesday, May 27, 2020
Endless Lockdown Is Not How I Expected To Live Out My Golden Years
I am not going to lie. I am depressed. I am totally at my wit's end and yet, this virus's end is nowhere in sight. Before the pandemic, I was often with my grandchildren during the week. I either did school pickups; or drove one of them to an afternoon activity; or had a magnatile playdate building zoos, castles, and buildings; or went to parks; and we shared many fun experiences and meals together.
I went to the gym everyday. I would visit with my mom several times a week and I took her various places. I met my friends for dinner and drinks at a restaurant. Usually, my husband and I wouldn't eat dinner until 8pm (which is when he would get home from work). We traveled a few times a year and spent a week in the summer at Spring Lake with our kids and their kids. We were planning a Europe trip in the fall.
All of this has come to an alarming halt. My grandchildren can't come in my car. We can't go to movies together or touch their toys. Parks are out of the question-no swings or slides allowed. My mom has been in isolation for three months (and tomorrow I get to visit with her with a piece of plexiglass in between us)! There will be no travel and there is no Spring Lake this summer. And let's discuss my dinner-it's now at 6:30 p.m. because my husband is already home and done with work after a 12-13 hour day! So by 8:30, I am starving again. And, as I have told anyone who will listen: CHICOS is my new CHANEL!
I feel such sadness that I can't spend the same amount of time with the three youngest grandchildren (ages 1, almost 2, almost 3) as I had the opportunity to do with the two older boys. Do the little ones EVEN know me? When I do have the opportunity to see them, they can't figure out the masks or why I won't hug them. It has been sheer torture. The two older ones (ages 5 & 7) are much more understanding, and we talk a lot on Facetime and on Caribu. I miss getting and giving the hugs and kisses. Will they ever want to sleep here again? None of them have had the opportunity in so long or EVER, and I fear that they will be scared to sleep in a strange bed or crib.
So I have resorted to being a homework advisor and a shopper/chef for themed meals: S'More Saturday, Sundaes on Sunday, Mac and Cheese Monday, Taco Tuesday, Froot Loop Friday or Fish and Chips Friday, and Thinny Thin Pizza on Thursday (hasn't happened yet). Mind you-I don't eat the meals with them. We would be at two separate tables 12 feet away.
I do get to visit in a socially distant way with three of my grandsons. We can take a walk on opposite sides of the street or I can watch but NOT participate in any sports they play-no touching balls, paddles, swings. My other daughter will not allow any socially distant visits because her daughter and son are too young to understand staying away from us. It's completely heartbreaking. So for now, Facetime is my savior.
I know, I know-many of you are in exactly the same position or don't even have kids that live nearby. So I am grateful for the ability to be in close proximity to everyone, and very thankful that everyone is healthy!
That brings me to the lessons I can learn from this Hell. If you have to go through Hell, don't come out of it empty handed. So here it goes....
More often I take stock of the beauty around me-my lovely daughters and sons in law, my husband, my grandchildren, and nature that surrounds me everyday. I value the sunrises more, the sunsets, the birds chirping, foxes that cross my path while walking, and the blooming trees, flowers, and shrubs. ACHOO!!!!!!!! I don't take any of this for granted.
So much of what we used to do was and is unnecessary. We don't need to spend so much time shopping, buying things, driving places, or dressing in uncomfortable clothes and shoes.
All of us are stressed-try and be more gracious with the people you love. Have a greater degree of empathy for one another. They are all just as stressed as you are. This is not an easy time for anyone.
Show appreciation to all the wonderful service people out there-not just during the pandemic but always! The doctors, nurses, mailmen, food and package delivery people, plumbers, grill fixers, electricians, the a/c guy, the gardeners, the garbage men, grocery store workers, the chefs, all the amazing staff in assisted living and nursing facilities, news casters, governors, and everyone who continues to work so hard to help us get through this trying time. Never miss an opportunity to thank them! Tell them how much you appreciate them. All of them are HEROES.
This virus is Not going away. And there is NOT a vaccine that will be happening for a long while. So, I want to remind everyone that even as restrictions are lifted, the health experts still recommend that older adults (that's me!) avoid potential carriers. The safest strategy is to spend your social time outdoors. Stay 10-12 feet apart (not 6 feet) when inside or outside with others. Everyone over the age of 2 should be wearing a mask-I know that might be unrealistic. Don't share food or drinks. Always carry hand sanitizer. Explain to the younger children that masks are keeping their grandparents safe.
Stay connected with your relatives and friends. It is imperative for our emotional, mental, and physical health to interact with people. Loneliness is the great predictor of decline. So, Count your blessings and cherish what you have. And always remember that "Everyday is a gift; but tomorrow is never a promise."
I went to the gym everyday. I would visit with my mom several times a week and I took her various places. I met my friends for dinner and drinks at a restaurant. Usually, my husband and I wouldn't eat dinner until 8pm (which is when he would get home from work). We traveled a few times a year and spent a week in the summer at Spring Lake with our kids and their kids. We were planning a Europe trip in the fall.
All of this has come to an alarming halt. My grandchildren can't come in my car. We can't go to movies together or touch their toys. Parks are out of the question-no swings or slides allowed. My mom has been in isolation for three months (and tomorrow I get to visit with her with a piece of plexiglass in between us)! There will be no travel and there is no Spring Lake this summer. And let's discuss my dinner-it's now at 6:30 p.m. because my husband is already home and done with work after a 12-13 hour day! So by 8:30, I am starving again. And, as I have told anyone who will listen: CHICOS is my new CHANEL!
I feel such sadness that I can't spend the same amount of time with the three youngest grandchildren (ages 1, almost 2, almost 3) as I had the opportunity to do with the two older boys. Do the little ones EVEN know me? When I do have the opportunity to see them, they can't figure out the masks or why I won't hug them. It has been sheer torture. The two older ones (ages 5 & 7) are much more understanding, and we talk a lot on Facetime and on Caribu. I miss getting and giving the hugs and kisses. Will they ever want to sleep here again? None of them have had the opportunity in so long or EVER, and I fear that they will be scared to sleep in a strange bed or crib.
So I have resorted to being a homework advisor and a shopper/chef for themed meals: S'More Saturday, Sundaes on Sunday, Mac and Cheese Monday, Taco Tuesday, Froot Loop Friday or Fish and Chips Friday, and Thinny Thin Pizza on Thursday (hasn't happened yet). Mind you-I don't eat the meals with them. We would be at two separate tables 12 feet away.
I do get to visit in a socially distant way with three of my grandsons. We can take a walk on opposite sides of the street or I can watch but NOT participate in any sports they play-no touching balls, paddles, swings. My other daughter will not allow any socially distant visits because her daughter and son are too young to understand staying away from us. It's completely heartbreaking. So for now, Facetime is my savior.
I know, I know-many of you are in exactly the same position or don't even have kids that live nearby. So I am grateful for the ability to be in close proximity to everyone, and very thankful that everyone is healthy!
That brings me to the lessons I can learn from this Hell. If you have to go through Hell, don't come out of it empty handed. So here it goes....
More often I take stock of the beauty around me-my lovely daughters and sons in law, my husband, my grandchildren, and nature that surrounds me everyday. I value the sunrises more, the sunsets, the birds chirping, foxes that cross my path while walking, and the blooming trees, flowers, and shrubs. ACHOO!!!!!!!! I don't take any of this for granted.
So much of what we used to do was and is unnecessary. We don't need to spend so much time shopping, buying things, driving places, or dressing in uncomfortable clothes and shoes.
All of us are stressed-try and be more gracious with the people you love. Have a greater degree of empathy for one another. They are all just as stressed as you are. This is not an easy time for anyone.
Show appreciation to all the wonderful service people out there-not just during the pandemic but always! The doctors, nurses, mailmen, food and package delivery people, plumbers, grill fixers, electricians, the a/c guy, the gardeners, the garbage men, grocery store workers, the chefs, all the amazing staff in assisted living and nursing facilities, news casters, governors, and everyone who continues to work so hard to help us get through this trying time. Never miss an opportunity to thank them! Tell them how much you appreciate them. All of them are HEROES.
This virus is Not going away. And there is NOT a vaccine that will be happening for a long while. So, I want to remind everyone that even as restrictions are lifted, the health experts still recommend that older adults (that's me!) avoid potential carriers. The safest strategy is to spend your social time outdoors. Stay 10-12 feet apart (not 6 feet) when inside or outside with others. Everyone over the age of 2 should be wearing a mask-I know that might be unrealistic. Don't share food or drinks. Always carry hand sanitizer. Explain to the younger children that masks are keeping their grandparents safe.
Stay connected with your relatives and friends. It is imperative for our emotional, mental, and physical health to interact with people. Loneliness is the great predictor of decline. So, Count your blessings and cherish what you have. And always remember that "Everyday is a gift; but tomorrow is never a promise."
Wednesday, May 6, 2020
NEW ONE B BLOG: "TIME IS THE FINAL CURRENCY" (David Crosby)
Here I am again with more rants!
Donald Trump is a man who deflects blame both personally and politically. Everyday he selects someone else to attack. Who is it now? Obama, China, WHO, the FBI, the press, President Bush, The Lincoln Project?
Trump fired Dr. Rick Bright, a former vaccine official. Why? Bright filed a whistleblower complaint against the Whitehouse stating he was pressured to ignore scientific recommendations and put politics and cronyism ahead of human lives. Where is the ethics in this firing? Trump continually berates and pushes out the brightest people. DON'T CROSS THE BOSS is his motto. He doesn't want truth.
If your child, spouse, friend, or partner was acting this erratically, you would seek help immediately.
Does Trump think if we don't talk about the virus it will just vanish? When an epidemic strikes, we need communication from scientists and medical experts. It is vital we have clear facts and clear evidence. If Trump engaged the scientists to provide our information and allowed them to actually tell us the facts, he would then be a true leader.
We are in a crisis. A crisis is an opportunity to show how you lead. A leader would demonstrate competence, firmness, and honesty. Closing your eyes to the recent models of how the virus will progress, and refusing to provide adequate testing for our country merely proves his choice to put politics and economics above the value of human lives.
Angus King, the Independent senator from Maine, is on the Intelligence Committee and was put on the Task Force to reopen the country. He was contacted only once (to be assigned to the Task Force). Several Weeks ago, he wrote to Trump suggesting that he place the competent Joe Dunford (19th former Chief of Staff) in charge of testing so that by June 15, the U.S. could be testing 2 million people a day. The suggestion fell on deaf ears. This morning, Dr. Jonathan Reiner said that a new study indicates every person in America should be tested. The reason for this comment: Asymptomatic people are shedding the virus and exhibit absolutely no symptoms. So, when you are in the market or at the pharmacy, there are many people in the aisles unknowingly spreading this virus. Extensive testing is the ONLY way we can eradicate this virus until there is a vaccine. Trump does not care about saving lives. He cares about winning the November election, and the stock market. And,"the real tragedy is that this is a mistake. By cutting himself off from people who know their subject matter and who will tell him the truth, he is cutting himself off from good information, which makes for very bad decisions." This virus is about science. No politics or ideology is involved.
Is it necessary to open tattoo parlors, nail salons, and bowling alleys? Who is that helping?
FDR said in his 1937 Inaugural Speech: "Hard-headness will not so easily excuse Hard-heartedness."
So, on a completely different tangent....How are all of you dealing with your significant others in such close quarters 24/7? I assume for some of you it's fabulous, and for some of you, not so much. I read an interesting interview in The New Yorker with therapist, Esther Perel. She discusses what happens to couples under stress.
Presently, in this isolation era your "partner is now expected to be your best friend, lover, psychotherapist, childcare co-worker, dishwasher, cook, housekeeper. Before all this, historically some of these positions were spread out within the community".
She suggests that we "create boundaries and routines". We should "separate day and night, weekdays and weekends, private time and family time. Couples need to regulate togetherness and separateness with or without confinement during a corona virus."
I couldn't agree with this more! I have always been a loner during the day! I need my space and my autonomy. I don't like to talk in the morning. I value my alone time. I don't want to discuss who I spoke with on the phone, or what my best friend had to say. I don't want to have lunch together on a weekday. In fact, I don't want to eat lunch at all on a weekday! Believe me, I adore my husband. And I am truly a very social person-I love talking to and being with my friends, I love going out and having fun. But, I am also equally happy spending time with just me, myself, and I. So, just let me be until we meet up at our dinners each evening, or until the weekend. I'll even eat lunch with you on Saturday and Sunday! Partners shouldn't take this personally or be offended. For me, it is merely about maintaining the routines we had before this virus came along. I am the same person I always was-my alone time is necessary for my sanity!
Ok-what to watch next?
Hollywood-Netflix
I Know This Much is True-HBO on 5/10
Jerry Seinfeld's 23 Hours to Kill - Netflix
Big Time Adolescence-Hulu
Quotes I like:
"Never underestimate what a hungry man will do for bacon." From the show, WACO.
"Shingles, Whiskers, bad bones, and bunions" -referring to what happens to women as they age.
From the show Better Things.
Can't wait until I can rant with all of you in person! Be well. Stay Safe.
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Donald Trump is a man who deflects blame both personally and politically. Everyday he selects someone else to attack. Who is it now? Obama, China, WHO, the FBI, the press, President Bush, The Lincoln Project?
Trump fired Dr. Rick Bright, a former vaccine official. Why? Bright filed a whistleblower complaint against the Whitehouse stating he was pressured to ignore scientific recommendations and put politics and cronyism ahead of human lives. Where is the ethics in this firing? Trump continually berates and pushes out the brightest people. DON'T CROSS THE BOSS is his motto. He doesn't want truth.
If your child, spouse, friend, or partner was acting this erratically, you would seek help immediately.
Does Trump think if we don't talk about the virus it will just vanish? When an epidemic strikes, we need communication from scientists and medical experts. It is vital we have clear facts and clear evidence. If Trump engaged the scientists to provide our information and allowed them to actually tell us the facts, he would then be a true leader.
We are in a crisis. A crisis is an opportunity to show how you lead. A leader would demonstrate competence, firmness, and honesty. Closing your eyes to the recent models of how the virus will progress, and refusing to provide adequate testing for our country merely proves his choice to put politics and economics above the value of human lives.
Angus King, the Independent senator from Maine, is on the Intelligence Committee and was put on the Task Force to reopen the country. He was contacted only once (to be assigned to the Task Force). Several Weeks ago, he wrote to Trump suggesting that he place the competent Joe Dunford (19th former Chief of Staff) in charge of testing so that by June 15, the U.S. could be testing 2 million people a day. The suggestion fell on deaf ears. This morning, Dr. Jonathan Reiner said that a new study indicates every person in America should be tested. The reason for this comment: Asymptomatic people are shedding the virus and exhibit absolutely no symptoms. So, when you are in the market or at the pharmacy, there are many people in the aisles unknowingly spreading this virus. Extensive testing is the ONLY way we can eradicate this virus until there is a vaccine. Trump does not care about saving lives. He cares about winning the November election, and the stock market. And,"the real tragedy is that this is a mistake. By cutting himself off from people who know their subject matter and who will tell him the truth, he is cutting himself off from good information, which makes for very bad decisions." This virus is about science. No politics or ideology is involved.
Is it necessary to open tattoo parlors, nail salons, and bowling alleys? Who is that helping?
FDR said in his 1937 Inaugural Speech: "Hard-headness will not so easily excuse Hard-heartedness."
So, on a completely different tangent....How are all of you dealing with your significant others in such close quarters 24/7? I assume for some of you it's fabulous, and for some of you, not so much. I read an interesting interview in The New Yorker with therapist, Esther Perel. She discusses what happens to couples under stress.
Presently, in this isolation era your "partner is now expected to be your best friend, lover, psychotherapist, childcare co-worker, dishwasher, cook, housekeeper. Before all this, historically some of these positions were spread out within the community".
She suggests that we "create boundaries and routines". We should "separate day and night, weekdays and weekends, private time and family time. Couples need to regulate togetherness and separateness with or without confinement during a corona virus."
I couldn't agree with this more! I have always been a loner during the day! I need my space and my autonomy. I don't like to talk in the morning. I value my alone time. I don't want to discuss who I spoke with on the phone, or what my best friend had to say. I don't want to have lunch together on a weekday. In fact, I don't want to eat lunch at all on a weekday! Believe me, I adore my husband. And I am truly a very social person-I love talking to and being with my friends, I love going out and having fun. But, I am also equally happy spending time with just me, myself, and I. So, just let me be until we meet up at our dinners each evening, or until the weekend. I'll even eat lunch with you on Saturday and Sunday! Partners shouldn't take this personally or be offended. For me, it is merely about maintaining the routines we had before this virus came along. I am the same person I always was-my alone time is necessary for my sanity!
Ok-what to watch next?
Hollywood-Netflix
I Know This Much is True-HBO on 5/10
Jerry Seinfeld's 23 Hours to Kill - Netflix
Big Time Adolescence-Hulu
Quotes I like:
"Never underestimate what a hungry man will do for bacon." From the show, WACO.
"Shingles, Whiskers, bad bones, and bunions" -referring to what happens to women as they age.
From the show Better Things.
Can't wait until I can rant with all of you in person! Be well. Stay Safe.
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Stream of Consciousness Rants from a Woman Going Insane in Isolation-approaching 7 weeks
I know I should be grateful for the roof over my head; the food on my table; that I have money to buy food for my table; for Netflix; for the good health of my husband, children, grandchildren, and my mom; BUT I am literally in a downward spiral mentally. I am totally losing it. Everything annoys me ALL the time. Everything. Maybe I should do yoga, but I don't want to. Maybe, I should go for a walk, but I don't want to. Maybe I should drink, but I don't want to.
What I want to do is GO OUT! I mean REALLY go out! To a show, to a bar, to the gym, to a restaurant, to a movie, to a ball game, to lunch with a friend, to a park, to a 7 Eleven with my grandsons for slurpees, to the mall, etc. etc. I want to hug and kiss my grandchildren. But, I can't. If I was Van Gogh, I probably would have cut off an ear by now. If I was Mike Tyson, I probably would've bitten off an ear by now. If I was Lorena Bobbitt, well you can finish that sentence. So my mind is inundated with all these crazed observations....
Are you ready?
If Covid 19 originated in the wet market of China and was transmitted from an animals to a human, THEN why are they saying on the latest news reports (last night) that the infected domestic cats and the Bronx zoo tigers in New York that have Covid 19, cannot spread the virus to humans? Viruses clearly move around between species. Why are they reporting that only humans can spread it to their pets, but not vice versa? This makes me nuts! Why doesn't someone explain this?
"I was never involved in a model at least this kind of model." Guess who said that? Yup - our President. The man who lacks empathy and competence and is a barely functional human and is throwing 2 hour MEGA rallies everyday. You can't open up the economy with DEAD people, NUM NUTS! Stop inciting governors to open up their states before the curve flattens.
Stop prescribing hydroxychloroquine-YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR. YOU ARE NOT AN EPIDEMOLOGIST! YOU DON'T HAVE A F---ING CLUE. Please leave the medical questions to the scientists and doctors. Don't offer your opinion on this. And don't fire HHS Intelligence community Inspector General, Dr. Bright, because he disagrees with you unsubstantiated views on cures for the Coronavirus.
As far as the economy, why should anyone be listening to Donald Trump? This man's hotels and businesses have declared bankruptcy SIX times. Mitch McConnell encouraging bankruptcy instead of bailouts is totally irresponsible. Remember, McConnell wasn't in favor of compensation funds for 9/11 victims or Hurricane Sandy relief aid. Contrary to his belief, these are not blue state issues. And, to the wealthy population out there who support this orange man (Trump) and his ignorant majority leader, why do you care if they open the economy now or wait a bit longer until this virus flattens? Shouldn't we be more concerned with saving lives? You have enough money to sustain your way of living-it should not be as important to the millionaires as it is to the small businesses, first responders and health care workers who are trying to stay afloat, trying to pay their bills or to pay their employees and trying to feed their families? If you have so much money and care so much about the economy, why don't you figure out a way to support the businesses in your local community-how about some anonymous donations?
And, just for the record President Trump, the U.S. has not provided more testing than any other country. The U.S. has 327 million people. As of now, 1 in 273 people are being tested in the U.S.
In Italy, where they have 60 million people, 1 in 133 people are tested. The U.S. may have conducted the most tests, BUT NOT PER CAPITA. In South Korea with a population of 51.5 million people, they test 1 in every 119 people. In Germany with 82.8 million people, they test 1 in 90 people.
So stop the rant everyday about your amazing ventilators and your incredible testing. I can't take it!
Now let's get to the Ray Donovan of the Trump Administration. His FIXER! You guessed it-William Barr. He's the man who compared coronavirus shutdowns to house arrest. He incites Governors to liberate their states along with Trump. Barr has done serious damage to the law of our country.
And, why isn't anyone talking about the long awaited 3 year review led by the Republican-led Senate Intelligence Committee that unanimously found that Russia did in fact interfere with elections? Shame on Trump for badmouthing/firing all the intelligence people working for the U.S.
Nursing Homes-where do I begin? I am totally freaked out. So far, there have been 7 deaths in my mom's assisted living facility. Presently another 5-7 people tested positive. She has been in isolation as long as I have. I worry every minute about her and that she is all alone. I often visit outside her window, fill her pillboxes in the parking lot like a drug dealer, and supply food each week so she has some treats every now and then. If I remove her, she cannot return until phase 3 is over. That could be June or July. I don't have a set up conducive to her staying in my home: 2 flights of stairs(she uses a walker), no walk in shower, and I don't use heat. Plus if I remove her, she must be quarantined for 14 days in a room in my home. So, it is with tremendous anxiety and guilt that I ask myself each day if I am doing right by her.
My hair is another issue (albeit a much less important one than the topics that preceded this rant). Tomorrow I go to the salon where they have premixed my hair color and have arranged an outside cash exchange for the color mixture. Then I go home and apply! Waalah-no roots!
A cousin of ours in Florida woke up today and was so excited to see that for the first time in weeks, the headline on the front page wasn't about Coronavirus. He was elated until he read the headline:
2020 Atlantic Hurricane Season Expected to be "above average". What the F--k?
So what do I do if I have a tooth ache, appendicitis, a large itchy raised bump on my neck (not a hickey), a finger that got caught in my shredder (true); what if my oven, refrigerator, or microwave breaks? Some of these things have occurred and some will in the future. I am sure of it! These are just a few more things that keep me reeling...and wide awake.
When can we see the dentist, the dermatologist-(fillers and botox are really taking a hit), the a/c servicing guy? I keep rescheduling appointments in hopes that we can do these things in a month. And Chicos -don't worry. I know your stores have been boarded up and closed, but I swear when we all emerge from our homes 20 lbs. heavier, those elastic waist clothes will totally be in vogue.
The Mayor of Las Vegas-has anyone had the fortune of watching Anderson Cooper interview Mayor Goodman on CNN on Wednesday? YOU MUST WATCH! She is insane. Very funny to watch. But very sad for the union workers in Vegas who disagree with her calling for casinos to reopen in this pandemic. She was completely unraveled......And FYI, the Governor totally disagrees with her. Thank God for that! Anderson Cooper was amazing.
Governor Cuomo-What is there to say? You should be President. Your daily conferences are the best. You instill calm, empathy, insight, and knowledge in the Northeast. We need you to run. We are lucky to have you as the voice of reason in this crazy world.
Ok-you all know what comes next. It's the only thing that gets me through the nights. What am I watching now you may ask? Here it is:
Belgravia-Epix. The story of secrets and scandals among the upper class of London during the 19th century. Juicy. If you liked Downton Abbey, you'll enjoy.
Unorthodox-Netflix. Hasidic Jewish woman living in Brooklyn runs away to Germany to escape her marriage. Very good.
Breeders-FX or Hulu. The paradoxical story of a couple who adore their young children, but often run out of patience with them. Clever and well done.
Fauda-Netflix. I don't watch it, but everyone I know does. And the third season is starting. Enjoy!
Better Things-FX. In my opinion (feel free to disagree), this is the BEST written show on tv. I love every second of every episode. As a mom of daughters, and also having an elderly mom, I relate
to so much of this. I command you to watch. And you can start with this season. You don't have to watch previous seasons if you don't want.
Schitt's Creek-POP TV or Hulu. I am so sad. The final season has ended. One of the funniest and most clever shows out there. Totally worth the time. You will not be sorry. Catherine O'Hara is the bomb.
Ms. America-Hulu. The story of the movement to ratify the ERA. Seen through the eyes of the feminists of the time and the conservative women's movement against them. Great cast. So far, it's very good.
I Know This Much Is True- Premieres May 10 on HBO. Based on the novel by Wally Lamb.
Defending Jacob-Apple Tv+. Teenager charged with first degree murder. Premieres tomorrow. Didn't get great reviews. Judge for yourself.
Bad Education-premieres on HBO this Saturday. Unpredictable and real life story about a superintendent of Roslyn School District. Starring Hugh Jackman and Allison Janney. GREAT REVIEWS. Get some popcorn and wine. Another Saturday night at home won't seem so bad!
To all of you out there-I pray for your health, safety, and mental well being. Until I need to rant again-
PEACE OUT-ONE B
What I want to do is GO OUT! I mean REALLY go out! To a show, to a bar, to the gym, to a restaurant, to a movie, to a ball game, to lunch with a friend, to a park, to a 7 Eleven with my grandsons for slurpees, to the mall, etc. etc. I want to hug and kiss my grandchildren. But, I can't. If I was Van Gogh, I probably would have cut off an ear by now. If I was Mike Tyson, I probably would've bitten off an ear by now. If I was Lorena Bobbitt, well you can finish that sentence. So my mind is inundated with all these crazed observations....
Are you ready?
If Covid 19 originated in the wet market of China and was transmitted from an animals to a human, THEN why are they saying on the latest news reports (last night) that the infected domestic cats and the Bronx zoo tigers in New York that have Covid 19, cannot spread the virus to humans? Viruses clearly move around between species. Why are they reporting that only humans can spread it to their pets, but not vice versa? This makes me nuts! Why doesn't someone explain this?
"I was never involved in a model at least this kind of model." Guess who said that? Yup - our President. The man who lacks empathy and competence and is a barely functional human and is throwing 2 hour MEGA rallies everyday. You can't open up the economy with DEAD people, NUM NUTS! Stop inciting governors to open up their states before the curve flattens.
Stop prescribing hydroxychloroquine-YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR. YOU ARE NOT AN EPIDEMOLOGIST! YOU DON'T HAVE A F---ING CLUE. Please leave the medical questions to the scientists and doctors. Don't offer your opinion on this. And don't fire HHS Intelligence community Inspector General, Dr. Bright, because he disagrees with you unsubstantiated views on cures for the Coronavirus.
As far as the economy, why should anyone be listening to Donald Trump? This man's hotels and businesses have declared bankruptcy SIX times. Mitch McConnell encouraging bankruptcy instead of bailouts is totally irresponsible. Remember, McConnell wasn't in favor of compensation funds for 9/11 victims or Hurricane Sandy relief aid. Contrary to his belief, these are not blue state issues. And, to the wealthy population out there who support this orange man (Trump) and his ignorant majority leader, why do you care if they open the economy now or wait a bit longer until this virus flattens? Shouldn't we be more concerned with saving lives? You have enough money to sustain your way of living-it should not be as important to the millionaires as it is to the small businesses, first responders and health care workers who are trying to stay afloat, trying to pay their bills or to pay their employees and trying to feed their families? If you have so much money and care so much about the economy, why don't you figure out a way to support the businesses in your local community-how about some anonymous donations?
And, just for the record President Trump, the U.S. has not provided more testing than any other country. The U.S. has 327 million people. As of now, 1 in 273 people are being tested in the U.S.
In Italy, where they have 60 million people, 1 in 133 people are tested. The U.S. may have conducted the most tests, BUT NOT PER CAPITA. In South Korea with a population of 51.5 million people, they test 1 in every 119 people. In Germany with 82.8 million people, they test 1 in 90 people.
So stop the rant everyday about your amazing ventilators and your incredible testing. I can't take it!
Now let's get to the Ray Donovan of the Trump Administration. His FIXER! You guessed it-William Barr. He's the man who compared coronavirus shutdowns to house arrest. He incites Governors to liberate their states along with Trump. Barr has done serious damage to the law of our country.
And, why isn't anyone talking about the long awaited 3 year review led by the Republican-led Senate Intelligence Committee that unanimously found that Russia did in fact interfere with elections? Shame on Trump for badmouthing/firing all the intelligence people working for the U.S.
Nursing Homes-where do I begin? I am totally freaked out. So far, there have been 7 deaths in my mom's assisted living facility. Presently another 5-7 people tested positive. She has been in isolation as long as I have. I worry every minute about her and that she is all alone. I often visit outside her window, fill her pillboxes in the parking lot like a drug dealer, and supply food each week so she has some treats every now and then. If I remove her, she cannot return until phase 3 is over. That could be June or July. I don't have a set up conducive to her staying in my home: 2 flights of stairs(she uses a walker), no walk in shower, and I don't use heat. Plus if I remove her, she must be quarantined for 14 days in a room in my home. So, it is with tremendous anxiety and guilt that I ask myself each day if I am doing right by her.
My hair is another issue (albeit a much less important one than the topics that preceded this rant). Tomorrow I go to the salon where they have premixed my hair color and have arranged an outside cash exchange for the color mixture. Then I go home and apply! Waalah-no roots!
A cousin of ours in Florida woke up today and was so excited to see that for the first time in weeks, the headline on the front page wasn't about Coronavirus. He was elated until he read the headline:
2020 Atlantic Hurricane Season Expected to be "above average". What the F--k?
So what do I do if I have a tooth ache, appendicitis, a large itchy raised bump on my neck (not a hickey), a finger that got caught in my shredder (true); what if my oven, refrigerator, or microwave breaks? Some of these things have occurred and some will in the future. I am sure of it! These are just a few more things that keep me reeling...and wide awake.
When can we see the dentist, the dermatologist-(fillers and botox are really taking a hit), the a/c servicing guy? I keep rescheduling appointments in hopes that we can do these things in a month. And Chicos -don't worry. I know your stores have been boarded up and closed, but I swear when we all emerge from our homes 20 lbs. heavier, those elastic waist clothes will totally be in vogue.
The Mayor of Las Vegas-has anyone had the fortune of watching Anderson Cooper interview Mayor Goodman on CNN on Wednesday? YOU MUST WATCH! She is insane. Very funny to watch. But very sad for the union workers in Vegas who disagree with her calling for casinos to reopen in this pandemic. She was completely unraveled......And FYI, the Governor totally disagrees with her. Thank God for that! Anderson Cooper was amazing.
Governor Cuomo-What is there to say? You should be President. Your daily conferences are the best. You instill calm, empathy, insight, and knowledge in the Northeast. We need you to run. We are lucky to have you as the voice of reason in this crazy world.
Ok-you all know what comes next. It's the only thing that gets me through the nights. What am I watching now you may ask? Here it is:
Belgravia-Epix. The story of secrets and scandals among the upper class of London during the 19th century. Juicy. If you liked Downton Abbey, you'll enjoy.
Unorthodox-Netflix. Hasidic Jewish woman living in Brooklyn runs away to Germany to escape her marriage. Very good.
Breeders-FX or Hulu. The paradoxical story of a couple who adore their young children, but often run out of patience with them. Clever and well done.
Fauda-Netflix. I don't watch it, but everyone I know does. And the third season is starting. Enjoy!
Better Things-FX. In my opinion (feel free to disagree), this is the BEST written show on tv. I love every second of every episode. As a mom of daughters, and also having an elderly mom, I relate
to so much of this. I command you to watch. And you can start with this season. You don't have to watch previous seasons if you don't want.
Schitt's Creek-POP TV or Hulu. I am so sad. The final season has ended. One of the funniest and most clever shows out there. Totally worth the time. You will not be sorry. Catherine O'Hara is the bomb.
Ms. America-Hulu. The story of the movement to ratify the ERA. Seen through the eyes of the feminists of the time and the conservative women's movement against them. Great cast. So far, it's very good.
I Know This Much Is True- Premieres May 10 on HBO. Based on the novel by Wally Lamb.
Defending Jacob-Apple Tv+. Teenager charged with first degree murder. Premieres tomorrow. Didn't get great reviews. Judge for yourself.
Bad Education-premieres on HBO this Saturday. Unpredictable and real life story about a superintendent of Roslyn School District. Starring Hugh Jackman and Allison Janney. GREAT REVIEWS. Get some popcorn and wine. Another Saturday night at home won't seem so bad!
To all of you out there-I pray for your health, safety, and mental well being. Until I need to rant again-
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Thursday, March 19, 2020
ONE B'S CORONA PLAYLIST
I'm Back! What has it been? Two days since my last blog? In the past 4 days, I have done a thorough cleaning of my home (my housekeeper is "working from home and sent instructions on what I should do!"); cleaned out all my closets, and refolded everything; changed the sheets; rearranged my spices and organized my pantry; cooked every meal, and some have been pretty impressive; dyed my own grey roots-not so impressive(!); watched 3 zillion Law and Orders; and gone outside for long walks.
On these walks I need something to listen to, so I have created a playlist for this crazy time in our chaotic and yet boring lives.
Here it is:
1) A CHANGE IS GONNA COME-SAM COOKE. "so tired of standing by myself/And standing up alone/A change has gotta come."
2) A CHANGE WOULD DO YOU GOOD-SHERYL CROW. "I think a change would do you good."
3) ALL I WANT-JONI MITCHELL. "I wanna be strong I wanna laugh along I wanna belong to the living."
4) APRIL COME SHE WILL-SIMON AND GARFUNKEL. "April, come she will/When streams are ripe and swelled with rain."
5) ARE YOU LONESOME TONIGHT-ELVIS. "Does your memory stray to a brighter sunny day."
6) BAD MOON RISING-CREEDENCE CLEARWATER. "I see trouble on the way/I see earthquakes and lightnin'/I see bad times today."
7) CHANGES-DAVID BOWIE. "Time may change me/But I can't trace time."
8) DOCTOR DOCTOR-ROBERT PALMER. Doctor Doctor, give me the news.."
9) DON'T STAND SO CLOSE TO ME-POLICE. "Don't stand, don't stand so/Don't stand so close to me."
10) DON'T STOP THINKING ABOUT TOMORROW-FLEETWOOD MAC. Don't stop, it'll soon be here/it'll be, better than before/ Yesterday's gone, yesterday's gone."
11) ELEANOR RIGBY-THE BEATLES. "All the lonely people/ where do they all belong?"
12) HOLD ON-WILSON PHILLIPS. "Things'll go your way/If you hold on for one more day."
13) HOT BLOODED-FOREIGNER. "I'm hot blooded, check it and see/I got a fever of a hundred and three.
14) I MADE IT THROUGH THE RAIN-BARRY MANILOW. "Sometimes you feel so afraid/ Just aim beyond the clouds/ And rise above the crowds/And start your own parade."
15) I'M STILL STANDING-ELTON JOHN. "Don't you know I'm still standing better than I ever did/ Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid."
16) IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD AS WE KNOW IT-R.E.M. "It's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine."
17) I'VE BEEN LONELY TOO LONG-THE YOUNG RASCALS. "I keep hopin' with all my mind/Everything gonna turn out right/ I've been lonely too long,"
18) I WILL SURVIVE-GLORIA GAYNOR. "At first I was afraid, I was petrified/And I grew strong/ And I learned how to get along."
19) KEEP HOLDING ON-AVRIL LAVIGNE. "Keep holding on/'cause you know we'll make it through."
20) KING OF PAIN-STING. "There's a little black spot on the sun today/It's the same old thing as yesterday."
21) LONESOME DAY-BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN. "This too shall pass, I'm gonna pray/Right now all I got's this lonesome day."
22) LONG AND WINDING ROAD-THE BEATLES. "Many times I've been alone/ And many times I've cried."
23) ONE IS THE LONLIEST NUMBER-THREE DOG NIGHT. "One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do/ No is the saddest experience you'll ever know/ Yes it's the saddest experience you'll ever know."
24) ONLY THE LONELY-ROY ORBISON. "Only the lonely know the way I feel tonight/Only the lonely know this feeling ain't right."
25) ROLL WITH IT-STEVE WINWOOD. "When this world turns its back on you/Hang in and do that sweet thing you do/ You just roll with it, baby."
26) SATURDAY NIGHT-FRANK SINATRA. "Saturday night is the loneliest night in the week/'Cause that's the night that my sweetie and I/Used to dance cheek to cheek."
27) SO FAR AWAY-CAROL KING. "Long ago I reached for you and there you stood./Holding you again could only do me good/Oh how I wish I could but you're so far away.
28) SOMEBODY GET ME A DOCTOR-VAN HALEN. "Somebody get me a doctor, aw, aw/ Oh, somebody give me a shot."
29) STRONGER-KELLY CLARKSON. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger/Stand a little taller/What doesn't kill you makes a fighter/ Footsteps even lighter."
30) THE ONLY LIVING BOY IN NEW YORK CITY-SIMON AND GARFUNKEL. "Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile/Do-n-doh-d-doh-n-doh and here I am/The only living boy in New York."
31) WE GOTTA GET OUT OF THIS PLACE-THE ANIMALS. "We gotta get out of this place if it's the last thing we ever do."
32) WHEN WILL I BE LOVED-EVERLY BROTHERS. "I've been made blue, I've been lied to/ When will I be loved."
33) YOU GOTTA BE-DES'REE. "Listen as your day unfolds/Challenge what the future holds/ Try and keep your head up to the sky/You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm/You gotta stay together."
34) WE SHALL OVERCOME-HAMILTON, HART, CARAWAN, SEEGER.
"We shall overcome,
We shall overcome, some day
Oh, deep in my heart,
I do believe
We'll walk hand in hand, some day."
For all of you out there hanging out, I hope this unexpected time at home brings you calm, peace, and hope. We still can be productive in many ways. We will get through this.
But, I won't lie. Each day I wake with my stomach churning. As I sit glued to three news channels from 5 to 8 a.m., I can't help but worry about my husband, my children, my grandchildren, my mom, my sister, my nieces and nephews, my relatives, my cherished friends, and truthfully, all of the U.S. population. My anxiety does not wane. What I want is for all of you to be safe and to stay healthy. What I want is for businesses to reopen, and people not to lose money, or their life savings, or their jobs. What I want is for hospitals and health workers to have the ability to help everyone that becomes ill and stay well while helping others. What I want is for no one to die from this virus.
Please stay home if you can. Call your friends, your parents, your kids.
Listen to music. Read! Bake! Exercise! Have sex! Drink! Dance! Laugh! Keep your spirits up.
AND REMEMBER THAT STRESSED SPELLED BACKWARDS SPELLS
DESSERTS!
PEACE OUT! ONE B
On these walks I need something to listen to, so I have created a playlist for this crazy time in our chaotic and yet boring lives.
Here it is:
1) A CHANGE IS GONNA COME-SAM COOKE. "so tired of standing by myself/And standing up alone/A change has gotta come."
2) A CHANGE WOULD DO YOU GOOD-SHERYL CROW. "I think a change would do you good."
3) ALL I WANT-JONI MITCHELL. "I wanna be strong I wanna laugh along I wanna belong to the living."
4) APRIL COME SHE WILL-SIMON AND GARFUNKEL. "April, come she will/When streams are ripe and swelled with rain."
5) ARE YOU LONESOME TONIGHT-ELVIS. "Does your memory stray to a brighter sunny day."
6) BAD MOON RISING-CREEDENCE CLEARWATER. "I see trouble on the way/I see earthquakes and lightnin'/I see bad times today."
7) CHANGES-DAVID BOWIE. "Time may change me/But I can't trace time."
8) DOCTOR DOCTOR-ROBERT PALMER. Doctor Doctor, give me the news.."
9) DON'T STAND SO CLOSE TO ME-POLICE. "Don't stand, don't stand so/Don't stand so close to me."
10) DON'T STOP THINKING ABOUT TOMORROW-FLEETWOOD MAC. Don't stop, it'll soon be here/it'll be, better than before/ Yesterday's gone, yesterday's gone."
11) ELEANOR RIGBY-THE BEATLES. "All the lonely people/ where do they all belong?"
12) HOLD ON-WILSON PHILLIPS. "Things'll go your way/If you hold on for one more day."
13) HOT BLOODED-FOREIGNER. "I'm hot blooded, check it and see/I got a fever of a hundred and three.
14) I MADE IT THROUGH THE RAIN-BARRY MANILOW. "Sometimes you feel so afraid/ Just aim beyond the clouds/ And rise above the crowds/And start your own parade."
15) I'M STILL STANDING-ELTON JOHN. "Don't you know I'm still standing better than I ever did/ Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid."
16) IT'S THE END OF THE WORLD AS WE KNOW IT-R.E.M. "It's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine."
17) I'VE BEEN LONELY TOO LONG-THE YOUNG RASCALS. "I keep hopin' with all my mind/Everything gonna turn out right/ I've been lonely too long,"
18) I WILL SURVIVE-GLORIA GAYNOR. "At first I was afraid, I was petrified/And I grew strong/ And I learned how to get along."
19) KEEP HOLDING ON-AVRIL LAVIGNE. "Keep holding on/'cause you know we'll make it through."
20) KING OF PAIN-STING. "There's a little black spot on the sun today/It's the same old thing as yesterday."
21) LONESOME DAY-BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN. "This too shall pass, I'm gonna pray/Right now all I got's this lonesome day."
22) LONG AND WINDING ROAD-THE BEATLES. "Many times I've been alone/ And many times I've cried."
23) ONE IS THE LONLIEST NUMBER-THREE DOG NIGHT. "One is the loneliest number that you'll ever do/ No is the saddest experience you'll ever know/ Yes it's the saddest experience you'll ever know."
24) ONLY THE LONELY-ROY ORBISON. "Only the lonely know the way I feel tonight/Only the lonely know this feeling ain't right."
25) ROLL WITH IT-STEVE WINWOOD. "When this world turns its back on you/Hang in and do that sweet thing you do/ You just roll with it, baby."
26) SATURDAY NIGHT-FRANK SINATRA. "Saturday night is the loneliest night in the week/'Cause that's the night that my sweetie and I/Used to dance cheek to cheek."
27) SO FAR AWAY-CAROL KING. "Long ago I reached for you and there you stood./Holding you again could only do me good/Oh how I wish I could but you're so far away.
28) SOMEBODY GET ME A DOCTOR-VAN HALEN. "Somebody get me a doctor, aw, aw/ Oh, somebody give me a shot."
29) STRONGER-KELLY CLARKSON. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger/Stand a little taller/What doesn't kill you makes a fighter/ Footsteps even lighter."
30) THE ONLY LIVING BOY IN NEW YORK CITY-SIMON AND GARFUNKEL. "Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile/Do-n-doh-d-doh-n-doh and here I am/The only living boy in New York."
31) WE GOTTA GET OUT OF THIS PLACE-THE ANIMALS. "We gotta get out of this place if it's the last thing we ever do."
32) WHEN WILL I BE LOVED-EVERLY BROTHERS. "I've been made blue, I've been lied to/ When will I be loved."
33) YOU GOTTA BE-DES'REE. "Listen as your day unfolds/Challenge what the future holds/ Try and keep your head up to the sky/You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm/You gotta stay together."
34) WE SHALL OVERCOME-HAMILTON, HART, CARAWAN, SEEGER.
"We shall overcome,
We shall overcome, some day
Oh, deep in my heart,
I do believe
We'll walk hand in hand, some day."
For all of you out there hanging out, I hope this unexpected time at home brings you calm, peace, and hope. We still can be productive in many ways. We will get through this.
But, I won't lie. Each day I wake with my stomach churning. As I sit glued to three news channels from 5 to 8 a.m., I can't help but worry about my husband, my children, my grandchildren, my mom, my sister, my nieces and nephews, my relatives, my cherished friends, and truthfully, all of the U.S. population. My anxiety does not wane. What I want is for all of you to be safe and to stay healthy. What I want is for businesses to reopen, and people not to lose money, or their life savings, or their jobs. What I want is for hospitals and health workers to have the ability to help everyone that becomes ill and stay well while helping others. What I want is for no one to die from this virus.
Please stay home if you can. Call your friends, your parents, your kids.
Listen to music. Read! Bake! Exercise! Have sex! Drink! Dance! Laugh! Keep your spirits up.
AND REMEMBER THAT STRESSED SPELLED BACKWARDS SPELLS
DESSERTS!
PEACE OUT! ONE B
Monday, March 16, 2020
Be Prepared To Hunker Down.... INDEFINITELY
For those of you who already are experiencing cabin fever, I suggest you find some good books, binge watch some television, and cook some fabulous food. We are in for the very long haul. There is so much confusion as to what we can expect in future days, what has already happened, and how at risk we are . And, that confusion is directly due to our government not taking this seriously for weeks. Now, we are ALL in a fight against this enemy: Covid 19.
I can only write about what I personally know and what my experience has been.
First, I have a 93 year old mom in an assisted living facility. They have been slow at emailing, setting restrictions, and after weeks of wavering on rules, they have finally forbidden all visitors and will not allow residents to leave. Since I administer my mom's meds, I have to obtain special permission to try and go in once a week. Last night I asked if they would fill her pill boxes (there are 3 boxes; 16 pills; and 6am, 7am, 9:30 am, 4:30 pm, 6pm, and 9:30 pm administer times/ 6 sections in boxes). They responded that they didn't think so, even though they do offer that amenity for a fee. I'm unclear about this response and waiting for further clarification.
If any of you have felt symptoms and tried to get a coronavirus test, you are screwed. There are NO tests despite what you hear from President Trump. I have heard and watched a multitude of testimonies from people who have called their Dr. The Dr. doesn't allow them into their office. The Dr. says go to the ER. The ER says do not come here. The ER says go to your Urgent Care. You call
Urgent Care and they say go to the ER. Presently, it is a nightmare.
Eventually, we will have more tests, but it is way too little and way too late. Google Dan Goldman and watch his horrifying story about trying to get a test in NYC and ultimately, after 6 hours on a gurney in Columbia Presbyterian's hallway, they refused a test. He ended up driving to Connecticut and getting a test where he found out he was positive (as is his wife.)
Regardless of what you are hearing, this virus does not discriminate based on age, income, your general health, your political ideology, or your insurance plan. This is NOT a foreign illness.
Presently 50% of patients with the virus in the ICU are UNDER 60 years old. Many of my friends are 60 or older. They have children and grandchildren who they want to interact with. My children have now forbidden me from seeing them. This is extremely difficult for me. But I am respecting their instructions and FaceTime is my new best friend. My children's valid concern is that their children can be asymptomatic (as can adults-see the Mayor of Miami who tested positive with no symptoms) and pass the virus on to me or my husband.
Thirty and Forty year olds have also been getting very sick with this virus, and the doctors can't figure out why. Check out last Friday's NY Times story about the thirty- something nurse and thirty-something doctor who battled the illness in China. The doctor died (as did the original young "whistleblower doctor"). The nurse did survive but was extremely ill . They were all young and in excellent health. It is baffling and troubling why the young are having trouble fighting this virus.
According to polls, 30% of Republicans don't take this virus seriously. WAKE UP! This is not a political hoax. Look at what is going on all around you. Have you not been watching the news? Listen to Governor Cuomo and Dr. Fauci-they seem to be the voice of reason. Listen to the Governor of Illinois and his horror at the ineptness of the government handling the influx of people arriving at OHare yesterday. Listen to your local government. The Federal Government has been worthless.
In the United States, the Corona Virus cases have more than doubled since Friday. This pandemic will get much worse before it gets better. The hospitals and health workers will be overwhelmed. Our responsibility is to stay home with the hope of slowing the virus; to avoid contact with others as best we can; to keep hands clean; and to keep surfaces disinfected often. These are the places that should be disinfected often:
cell phones
light switches
remote controls
toilet and sink handles
door knobs
refrigerator and cabinet handles and coffee makers
alarm panels
car exterior handles, steering wheels, all interior buttons
computer keyboards and mouse
take out food containers, food packaging, packages and mail that are delivered
If you do venture out, please take your hand sanitizer and Clorox wipes with you in your car.
If you are able to purchase these items, do so:
disinfectant wipes, hand sanitizer, toilet tissue, Tylenol, frozen fruits, canned goods, medications, detergent, alcohol, thermometers, and paper towels. Have some extra cash on hand.
Please, for now, avoid dinner parties and play dates. Instead, let the kids play outside with their siblings. Take long walks, prepare theme dinners, make a great soup or a delicious dessert. Read a great book. Have a drink with dinner!
Many of you don't know this, but I sell life and long term care insurance. No one pays attention to buying Long term care insurance until you have a parent, a close relative, or a spouse who suddenly becomes ill and needs full time care. In other words, you don't purchase it until the problem hits close to home and smacks you upside of the head. Now, all of a sudden is the realization that you don't want to be a burden on your spouse or children. And Bingo, you buy Long Term Care Insurance.
I think the Coronavirus is a little like Long Term Care Insurance. Many of you won't take this seriously until it reaches a friend, a coworker, or a parent. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT. LISTEN NOW OR FACE AN ITALY-LIKE DEBACLE. WE ARE NOT FAR BEHIND THEM. You have a choice. Stay informed, be safe, practice social distancing so that you or a loved one doesn't get sick.
Finally, If you are looking for something new to watch on television:
Briarpatch- on USA. Monday at 11pm. An investigator returns to her home town to search for her sister's killer and finds a lot of corruption.
The Plot Against America-on HBO. Monday at 9pm. Based on Philip Roth's book where Lindbergh turns the nation towards facism.
Outmatched-on Hulu. A blue collar couple trying to raise their 4 children; 3 of whom are certified geniuses!
Praying for all of you to stay healthy. Take this time to enjoy the people you are at home with. Cherish and Love one another. And above all, try to stay calm. Peace out-ONE B
I can only write about what I personally know and what my experience has been.
First, I have a 93 year old mom in an assisted living facility. They have been slow at emailing, setting restrictions, and after weeks of wavering on rules, they have finally forbidden all visitors and will not allow residents to leave. Since I administer my mom's meds, I have to obtain special permission to try and go in once a week. Last night I asked if they would fill her pill boxes (there are 3 boxes; 16 pills; and 6am, 7am, 9:30 am, 4:30 pm, 6pm, and 9:30 pm administer times/ 6 sections in boxes). They responded that they didn't think so, even though they do offer that amenity for a fee. I'm unclear about this response and waiting for further clarification.
If any of you have felt symptoms and tried to get a coronavirus test, you are screwed. There are NO tests despite what you hear from President Trump. I have heard and watched a multitude of testimonies from people who have called their Dr. The Dr. doesn't allow them into their office. The Dr. says go to the ER. The ER says do not come here. The ER says go to your Urgent Care. You call
Urgent Care and they say go to the ER. Presently, it is a nightmare.
Eventually, we will have more tests, but it is way too little and way too late. Google Dan Goldman and watch his horrifying story about trying to get a test in NYC and ultimately, after 6 hours on a gurney in Columbia Presbyterian's hallway, they refused a test. He ended up driving to Connecticut and getting a test where he found out he was positive (as is his wife.)
Regardless of what you are hearing, this virus does not discriminate based on age, income, your general health, your political ideology, or your insurance plan. This is NOT a foreign illness.
Presently 50% of patients with the virus in the ICU are UNDER 60 years old. Many of my friends are 60 or older. They have children and grandchildren who they want to interact with. My children have now forbidden me from seeing them. This is extremely difficult for me. But I am respecting their instructions and FaceTime is my new best friend. My children's valid concern is that their children can be asymptomatic (as can adults-see the Mayor of Miami who tested positive with no symptoms) and pass the virus on to me or my husband.
Thirty and Forty year olds have also been getting very sick with this virus, and the doctors can't figure out why. Check out last Friday's NY Times story about the thirty- something nurse and thirty-something doctor who battled the illness in China. The doctor died (as did the original young "whistleblower doctor"). The nurse did survive but was extremely ill . They were all young and in excellent health. It is baffling and troubling why the young are having trouble fighting this virus.
According to polls, 30% of Republicans don't take this virus seriously. WAKE UP! This is not a political hoax. Look at what is going on all around you. Have you not been watching the news? Listen to Governor Cuomo and Dr. Fauci-they seem to be the voice of reason. Listen to the Governor of Illinois and his horror at the ineptness of the government handling the influx of people arriving at OHare yesterday. Listen to your local government. The Federal Government has been worthless.
In the United States, the Corona Virus cases have more than doubled since Friday. This pandemic will get much worse before it gets better. The hospitals and health workers will be overwhelmed. Our responsibility is to stay home with the hope of slowing the virus; to avoid contact with others as best we can; to keep hands clean; and to keep surfaces disinfected often. These are the places that should be disinfected often:
cell phones
light switches
remote controls
toilet and sink handles
door knobs
refrigerator and cabinet handles and coffee makers
alarm panels
car exterior handles, steering wheels, all interior buttons
computer keyboards and mouse
take out food containers, food packaging, packages and mail that are delivered
If you do venture out, please take your hand sanitizer and Clorox wipes with you in your car.
If you are able to purchase these items, do so:
disinfectant wipes, hand sanitizer, toilet tissue, Tylenol, frozen fruits, canned goods, medications, detergent, alcohol, thermometers, and paper towels. Have some extra cash on hand.
Please, for now, avoid dinner parties and play dates. Instead, let the kids play outside with their siblings. Take long walks, prepare theme dinners, make a great soup or a delicious dessert. Read a great book. Have a drink with dinner!
Many of you don't know this, but I sell life and long term care insurance. No one pays attention to buying Long term care insurance until you have a parent, a close relative, or a spouse who suddenly becomes ill and needs full time care. In other words, you don't purchase it until the problem hits close to home and smacks you upside of the head. Now, all of a sudden is the realization that you don't want to be a burden on your spouse or children. And Bingo, you buy Long Term Care Insurance.
I think the Coronavirus is a little like Long Term Care Insurance. Many of you won't take this seriously until it reaches a friend, a coworker, or a parent. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT. LISTEN NOW OR FACE AN ITALY-LIKE DEBACLE. WE ARE NOT FAR BEHIND THEM. You have a choice. Stay informed, be safe, practice social distancing so that you or a loved one doesn't get sick.
Finally, If you are looking for something new to watch on television:
Briarpatch- on USA. Monday at 11pm. An investigator returns to her home town to search for her sister's killer and finds a lot of corruption.
The Plot Against America-on HBO. Monday at 9pm. Based on Philip Roth's book where Lindbergh turns the nation towards facism.
Outmatched-on Hulu. A blue collar couple trying to raise their 4 children; 3 of whom are certified geniuses!
Praying for all of you to stay healthy. Take this time to enjoy the people you are at home with. Cherish and Love one another. And above all, try to stay calm. Peace out-ONE B
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