Currently I am dealing with the inevitable misfortune of ailing elderly parents. When not in Florida visiting with them and tending to their immediate needs, I am in New Jersey fielding calls and texts. Each day, all day, it is a barrage of communication from hospice, doctors, aides, case managers, social workers, and my parents. Major issues need attention and mediating from a distance is difficult and ineffective. My mother (who is quite ill in her own right) is presently the healthier spouse. Her only concern is keeping my father alive - it is actually quite selfish, but understandable after almost 72 years of wedded bliss. She denies him sedating medication even though it often helps quiet some of his ailments. What I repeatedly witness day after day is their glimmer of hope that they will get better. She and he are in total denial most of the time and then occasionally there is a fleeting moment of reality that this may actually be the end. During my many visits there while they sleep 90% of their lives away, I have had too much time to reflect upon life and death. Much of what I am about to say are quotes from the book The Unwinding of A Miracle by Julie Yip-Williams and from an article in The Atlantic by Ezekiel Emanuel. These two people have given me a clearer idea of what the end of life is like for both the parents and their children who sadly witness their decline.
"We all are obsessed with living a healthy lifestyle all in a valiant effort to cheat death and prolong life." And my parents HAVE cheated death and lived almost all of their 92 and 95 years enjoying great health, knowing intense love, socializing with many friends, savoring family, travel, and their early retirement in a beautiful warm climate. They have experienced what all of us can only hope for.
But, sadly, the harsh reality is that death awaits us all. Yes, and "death deprives us of experiences and milestones." My parents are blessed to have achieved many milestones, and they are no longer having experiences. Observing their current behavior and actions, I have come to understand that it is human nature to put up the good fight; to be eternally hopeful that we will feel better tomorrow, and to never give up. But, for them, at this juncture, it is not realistic.
My parents are no longer " living a vibrant life. They are alive but incapacitated. They are hostages in their own home. Sometimes living too long is also a loss. It renders many of us, if not disabled, then faltering and declining." To me, this is a state that is possibly worse than death.
I believe my parents " have a fear of being small, of becoming irrelevant and worst of all, being forgotten. That is why they continue to resist death. I also believe that "true inner strength does lie in facing death with peace and serenity. The truth is that death isn't the enemy but simply an inevitable part of life. I know that truth is very difficult for all of us to accept. But living a life with no quality transforms people. It changes the way people experience us, relate to us, and most of all remember us. I want to look back on my parents with all the happy memories and admiration for their lives well lived. I don't want to resent the constant phone calls. I don't want to feel angry and anxious. I feel helpless and I must admit, I am having great difficulty navigating this trying and complicated time. We all will go through or have gone through this stage with our parents, It isn't easy to balance my emotions and at the same time keep my parents safe and calm. It is a horrendous time for all of us.
So in the end, I want my parents to realize they have loved and certainly, have been loved. They should rejoice in the knowledge that they raised successful, kind and happy children. These children have now raised their own amazing, fabulous children. And now, those children are in the midst of their own rich lives and raising their little ones. They should take pleasure and solace in the fact that they had a large part in creating this incredible extended family.
So all my friends out there-LIVE WHILE YOU LIVE because there won't be a u-haul behind your coffin.....
Friday, May 10, 2019
Tuesday, April 2, 2019
A Few of My Favorite Things....
Spring is finally here. We are all cleaning out our closets, putting away our coats and boots, and soaking in some of the warmer temperatures. Lighter clothes, fun jewelry, lots of sunscreen, softer fragrances -just a great time of year! Check out my favorites.
TRENDING PRODUCTS FOR SPRING:
Jo Malone two palette solid fragrances-Layer on your skin with the dab of your fingertip. Pick 2 from 6 fragrance options. Layer your scent. $76 but sold out everywhere!
Good Behavior Hair-a heat protection blow out spray that creates the keratin smooth result. Available on Amazon or Ulta. $32, which is a tenth of the cost of your keratin treatment!
Skinceuticals CE Ferulic-Vitamin C serum that improves signs of aging and brightens skin. $165. Available at skinceuticals.com or dermstore.com. Great for getting your skin into that summer glow.
Lip Magnet by Armani-18 shades of flawless matte finish. Lasts for 8 hours and smudge proof. With your sheer makeup, go ahead and pop on some intense lip color. $38 and available at all major department stores.
Drew Barrymore's Flower Beauty line-try her Supernova Celestial skin elixir. $15.99 at Ulta.
Ela Rae Jewelry-I like all their beaded necklaces for Spring and Summer. I am partial to the Lori necklace which is made with iolite beads and a moonstone drop. 14k gold plated over sterling. 14 inch length with 2 inch extender. Starting at $88. Available on their website, Bloomies, or Nordstrom.
Ballet Bracelet by Asher Hoffman-flexible one carat diamond bangle in rose, yellow, or white gold. If you have a wrist smaller than 7 inches, contact them directly so that they can custom size yours. Go to balletbracelet.com or Asherhoffman.com. $1195.00 Love these!
Aura Bracelet-as seen on the Stephanie Gottleib website. The bracelet is made my Robert Demeglio, so you can see them on his website as well. Ceramic beads with 18k gold overlay in rose or yellow gold. Two bead sizes $348 OR $408 and three wrist sizes (S,M,L). Fabulous for summer!
Necklet- Gadget designed to let you layer and wear three necklaces at one time. This magnetic clasp comes in plated tarnish resistant white, rose, or yellow gold. Brilliant invention for those of us who love to wear several necklaces at different lengths and not have them tangle. $39.99 at Shopnecklet.com.
Exuviance Ha100 Microfiller-2 step serum and pads to target wrinkles while you sleep. $88 at Dermstore.com or Ulta.
TELEVISION-WHAT TO WATCH:
CBS at 7a.m.-My favorite way to start the morning is to watch CBS This Morning Eye Opener: Your
World in 90 Seconds. It gives me a great fast recap of the news. It's fabulous.
Black Monday-Sunday nights on Showtime. About the stock market crash. Don Cheadle, Andrew Rannells, and Regina Hall make this an absolute joy to watch. Finale is next week, but you can watch it on demand.
Smilf-Also Sunday nights on Showtime. Frankie Shaw and Rosie O'Donnell are superb in this show about a struggling single mother in South Boston. Shaw is brilliant-she writes, directs, and stars in this series. I have to admit that last season was a bit better than this season.
Better Things- On FX Thursdays@10 p.m. Pamela Adlon stars as Sam Fox, a single mom raising 3 daughters. She has no filter, is a working actor, and her crazy mom lives across the street. Enough said-it's hilarious. Just watch.
Shitt's Creek-On POP Wednesdays@10p.m.- A wealthy couple suddenly finds themselves broke and move to a small town where they own a motel. Eugene Levy, Daniel Levy, and Sarah Levy star along with Catherine O'Hara and Annie Murphy. Every scene is a delight and each cast member shines. Pure fun.
Spin-On Netflix. Full disclosure-I haven't watched yet. Plot is about a French President who is assassinated. Two spin doctors that were friends are now pitted against each other in a snap election. Highly recommended to me.
Billions-Sunday nights on Showtime. Loving this season. Paul Giamatti and Damian Lewis finally co-conspire to conquer their enemies and succeed in their careers. Very interesting season so far.
You're the Worst-FXX Wednesdays@10pm. Two cranky people fall in love and show us marriage, fear, sex, and sometimes heartbreak. Sometimes Aya Cash who stars as Gretchen can be a bit annoying. Still I keep watching.
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BOOKS I JUST FINISHED:
The Tournament- by Matthew Reilly. Historical fiction, a mystery, and a chess match during the 1500's. Not usually a fan of historical fiction, but I really liked this! Fast paced.
The Last Romantics-by Tara Conklin. The first book recommended by Jenna Bush for her new book club. Follows the Skinner family over the span of a century. It looks at family and sibling relationships and how they ebb and flow. Very good.
Speak No Evil-by Uzodinma Iweala. Well written book tells two stories 1)of a Harvard bound gay man dealing with coming out, and 2)his best friend, Meredith, dealing with her post college adjustment. Captivating and sad.
Next Book On Jenna Bush Hager's Book List; The Unwinding of the Miracle by Julie Yip-Williams. I am going to get that tomorrow! Jenna is the new Oprah!
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So I just returned from Florida where my family was fortunate enough to celebrate my Dad's 95th Birthday. And I heard a quote that I will end with today:
"Aging is a luxury. If we are lucky we are all going to age!"
And Finally, a big shout out to my hubby who after 5 months is able to see just ONE of everything again. So thrilled for you! Two of me was too much to take...
PEACE OUT-ONE B
TRENDING PRODUCTS FOR SPRING:
Jo Malone two palette solid fragrances-Layer on your skin with the dab of your fingertip. Pick 2 from 6 fragrance options. Layer your scent. $76 but sold out everywhere!
Good Behavior Hair-a heat protection blow out spray that creates the keratin smooth result. Available on Amazon or Ulta. $32, which is a tenth of the cost of your keratin treatment!
Skinceuticals CE Ferulic-Vitamin C serum that improves signs of aging and brightens skin. $165. Available at skinceuticals.com or dermstore.com. Great for getting your skin into that summer glow.
Lip Magnet by Armani-18 shades of flawless matte finish. Lasts for 8 hours and smudge proof. With your sheer makeup, go ahead and pop on some intense lip color. $38 and available at all major department stores.
Drew Barrymore's Flower Beauty line-try her Supernova Celestial skin elixir. $15.99 at Ulta.
Ela Rae Jewelry-I like all their beaded necklaces for Spring and Summer. I am partial to the Lori necklace which is made with iolite beads and a moonstone drop. 14k gold plated over sterling. 14 inch length with 2 inch extender. Starting at $88. Available on their website, Bloomies, or Nordstrom.
Ballet Bracelet by Asher Hoffman-flexible one carat diamond bangle in rose, yellow, or white gold. If you have a wrist smaller than 7 inches, contact them directly so that they can custom size yours. Go to balletbracelet.com or Asherhoffman.com. $1195.00 Love these!
Aura Bracelet-as seen on the Stephanie Gottleib website. The bracelet is made my Robert Demeglio, so you can see them on his website as well. Ceramic beads with 18k gold overlay in rose or yellow gold. Two bead sizes $348 OR $408 and three wrist sizes (S,M,L). Fabulous for summer!
Necklet- Gadget designed to let you layer and wear three necklaces at one time. This magnetic clasp comes in plated tarnish resistant white, rose, or yellow gold. Brilliant invention for those of us who love to wear several necklaces at different lengths and not have them tangle. $39.99 at Shopnecklet.com.
Exuviance Ha100 Microfiller-2 step serum and pads to target wrinkles while you sleep. $88 at Dermstore.com or Ulta.
TELEVISION-WHAT TO WATCH:
CBS at 7a.m.-My favorite way to start the morning is to watch CBS This Morning Eye Opener: Your
World in 90 Seconds. It gives me a great fast recap of the news. It's fabulous.
Black Monday-Sunday nights on Showtime. About the stock market crash. Don Cheadle, Andrew Rannells, and Regina Hall make this an absolute joy to watch. Finale is next week, but you can watch it on demand.
Smilf-Also Sunday nights on Showtime. Frankie Shaw and Rosie O'Donnell are superb in this show about a struggling single mother in South Boston. Shaw is brilliant-she writes, directs, and stars in this series. I have to admit that last season was a bit better than this season.
Better Things- On FX Thursdays@10 p.m. Pamela Adlon stars as Sam Fox, a single mom raising 3 daughters. She has no filter, is a working actor, and her crazy mom lives across the street. Enough said-it's hilarious. Just watch.
Shitt's Creek-On POP Wednesdays@10p.m.- A wealthy couple suddenly finds themselves broke and move to a small town where they own a motel. Eugene Levy, Daniel Levy, and Sarah Levy star along with Catherine O'Hara and Annie Murphy. Every scene is a delight and each cast member shines. Pure fun.
Spin-On Netflix. Full disclosure-I haven't watched yet. Plot is about a French President who is assassinated. Two spin doctors that were friends are now pitted against each other in a snap election. Highly recommended to me.
Billions-Sunday nights on Showtime. Loving this season. Paul Giamatti and Damian Lewis finally co-conspire to conquer their enemies and succeed in their careers. Very interesting season so far.
You're the Worst-FXX Wednesdays@10pm. Two cranky people fall in love and show us marriage, fear, sex, and sometimes heartbreak. Sometimes Aya Cash who stars as Gretchen can be a bit annoying. Still I keep watching.
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BOOKS I JUST FINISHED:
The Tournament- by Matthew Reilly. Historical fiction, a mystery, and a chess match during the 1500's. Not usually a fan of historical fiction, but I really liked this! Fast paced.
The Last Romantics-by Tara Conklin. The first book recommended by Jenna Bush for her new book club. Follows the Skinner family over the span of a century. It looks at family and sibling relationships and how they ebb and flow. Very good.
Speak No Evil-by Uzodinma Iweala. Well written book tells two stories 1)of a Harvard bound gay man dealing with coming out, and 2)his best friend, Meredith, dealing with her post college adjustment. Captivating and sad.
Next Book On Jenna Bush Hager's Book List; The Unwinding of the Miracle by Julie Yip-Williams. I am going to get that tomorrow! Jenna is the new Oprah!
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So I just returned from Florida where my family was fortunate enough to celebrate my Dad's 95th Birthday. And I heard a quote that I will end with today:
"Aging is a luxury. If we are lucky we are all going to age!"
And Finally, a big shout out to my hubby who after 5 months is able to see just ONE of everything again. So thrilled for you! Two of me was too much to take...
PEACE OUT-ONE B
Tuesday, February 12, 2019
FEBRUARY FOLLIES: FILMS, FOOD, FAVORITES, LITERATURE & PODCASTS
Winter is in full swing and for me that means more indoor time to read, listen, shop on line, and then venture out to gather sustenance and see movies. The Oscars are fast approaching so let's do the Flicks first.
FILMS
A Star is Born-**** Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper star. Very good remake. Won't win for best film.
Ben is Back-**Julia Roberts and Lucas Hedges. Good, but depressing. Watch it on demand.
Black Klansman-****A Spike Lee film starring Denzel's son, John David Washington. True story. I predict this will win Best Director. Spike has never won, and in this politically charged moment, I think he'll finally get the recognition he well deserves.
Black Panther-can't rate it, because I haven't seen it yet. But this is the major contender for
Best Film.
Bohemian Rhapsody-****Fun to watch from beginning to end. The story of the band Queen and Freddy Mercury. Rami Malek may just nab Best Actor for his role as Mercury.
The Favourite-***About Queen Anne and her friend Lady Sarah. Starring Emma Stone, Rachel Weisz, and Olivia Colman. Colman is a strong contender for Best Actress. Film was good, not great.
Green Book-****Fabulous film but it will be overlooked. Great performances by Mahershala Ali and Viggo Mortensen. Ali should win for best supporting actor. Think Driving Miss Daisy in reverse.
If Beale Street Could Talk-***Based on James Baldwin's story of a woman who seeks to clear the name of her wrongly accused lover and prove his innocence. Acting was superb.
On The Basis of Sex-**Entertaining, but not as good as the television documentary about RBG.
The Mule-****. One of my year's favorites. Clint Eastwood is spectacular. Don't miss this one!
The Vice-****. Although this received only fair reviews, I thought it was quite good. Christian Bale as Cheney, Sam Rockwell as George Bush, and Amy Adams as Lynne Cheney give stellar performances. Adams may nab Best Supporting Actress for this.
The Wife-****. An older woman questions her choice of husband and abandoning her career for him. Glenn Close will take the Best Actress Award for her role.
The Upside-**. Not a great movie, but I still liked it. Bryan Cranston and Kevin Hart are terrific.
So my predictions are: Black Panther/Best Movie; Black Klansman/Best Director; Rami Malek/Best Actor; Best Supporting Actor/Mahershala Ali; Best Actress/Glen Close; Best Supporting Actress/Regina King; Best Song/Lady Gaga.
PODCASTS
Mobituaries-Fans of Mo Rocca will love this series. Tune in to hear about Audrey Hepburn, or the fascinating story of famous JFK impersonator, Vaughn Meader. Each episode is about 45 minutes long. Listen to and from work. Most enjoyable!
Sunday Sitdown With Willie Geist-Listen to interesting interviews with the likes of Trevor Noah, Bradley Cooper, and other big names in music and pop culture. Willie is the bomb-love him and his interviews. Next superstar in the news-he is super talented.
PRODUCTS
Double Good Popcorn-delicious and a great way to give to charity. 50% of each item goes directly to your favorite charity. Sixteen flavors-Check out their website at Doublegood.com.
Heatonist.com-hot sauce gifts for those who want to spice it up. Tons of options starting at $14.
Fairytale Brownies-This is my "go to" gift. I send these all the time. There are 12 fudgy flavors in 3 different sizes and the best part is they are individually wrapped. Everyone loves them. Check out their site and also available on Amazon. Prices start at $20.95.
Kopari Coconut Body Glow-Skin illuminator for dry, dull skin. You can mix it into your favorite lotion for a subtler shimmer. $44 Sephora. Also available on QVC.
Carter and Jane Everything Oil-Prickly pear oil that replaces all other products. Can be used as eye, face, lip, neck and décolletage moisturizer. Also comes in a body oil. Before purchasing read about the aroma-no fragrance is used but prickly pear has a distinct aroma. $52 for the body oil, and $128 for the everything oil. CarterandJane.com.
Hammitt Limited Edition Bryant Bag-Soft leather purse with coveted external cell phone pocket. Stylish and a great purse for travel. Comes in different sizes and cross body option. $495
LITERATURE PICKS
Golden Child-Debut novel by Claire Adam. Sara Jessica Parker's second pick for Hogarth Publishing.
The Plot is about twin boys growing up in Trinidad and their struggles.
The Tournament-by Matthew Reilly. A thriller that takes place during Ottoman Empire and the story involves chess and a murder.
Where The Crawdads Sing-by Delia Owens. A murder mystery and a coming of age novel.
Becoming-by Michelle Obama. Superbly written by the First Lady. I am told the audio is even more fabulous because she narrates her memoir.
In Pieces-by Sally Field. Also a memoir which covers her lonely childhood and how it shaped her life as a daughter and a mother.
They Can't Kill Us-Pulitzer Prize Winner Wesley Lowery discusses the "totality of the American devaluation of black lives. Inspired by Ferguson Uprising and fatal shooting of Michael Brown in 2014.
FINALLY-LET'S EAT: LOCAL RESTAURANTS
Bottle Hill Tavern-13 Waverly Place, Madison. Formerly Poor Herbie's, this was taken over by Pal's owners. Yes, they have the mushroom soup, Burgers, and open hot turkey sandwich from the West Orange Establishment. Lots of great fare for lunch or dinner and a bar too. No reservations.
Central and Main-3 Central Ave., Madison. American eatery by the same owners of South and Pine in Morristown. Vegetarian friendly. Open for lunch and dinner. BYO.
Da Pepo-54 Fairfield Street, Montclair. Small plates, pasta, salads and paninis. 19 seats and no reservations. Go early! BYO.
Fox and Falcon-19 Valley Street, South Orange. Formerly Ricaltons. Burgers, steaks, fish. Craft Beers and fun cocktails. The chef's pasta is supposedly beyond fabulous-he was the executive chef at Del Posto in the city.
Grain and Cane-250 Connell Drive, Berkley Heights. Raw Bar, steaks, seafood, burgers and fun sides. Has a bar.
Moe's Bistro-535 Central Ave., New Providence. Varied menu for dinner, less options at lunch. They take reservations and it's BYO. Don't be fooled by it's Best Western location!
Montclair Social-499 Bloomfield Ave. Montclair. Short Hills lawyer opened this with the idea of music, cocktails and varied menu of nibbles or entrees. Opened for brunch on weekends as well.
The Pasta Shop-13 First Avenue, Denville. Handmade pastas. Papperdelle Bolognese and the garlic bread are not to be missed. Only 36 seats which are always full. Be prepared to wait. BYO.
Pucciarello's-34 Ridgedale Ave., East Hanover. Good, hearty Italian food. Try the chopped salad and the inside out meatball stuffed with spaghetti. Lots of options. Nicely managed. Great for Saturday night or Family dinners on Sunday. They take reservations and it's BYO.
This ought to keep you busy until Spring! Peace Out. One B
FILMS
A Star is Born-**** Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper star. Very good remake. Won't win for best film.
Ben is Back-**Julia Roberts and Lucas Hedges. Good, but depressing. Watch it on demand.
Black Klansman-****A Spike Lee film starring Denzel's son, John David Washington. True story. I predict this will win Best Director. Spike has never won, and in this politically charged moment, I think he'll finally get the recognition he well deserves.
Black Panther-can't rate it, because I haven't seen it yet. But this is the major contender for
Best Film.
Bohemian Rhapsody-****Fun to watch from beginning to end. The story of the band Queen and Freddy Mercury. Rami Malek may just nab Best Actor for his role as Mercury.
The Favourite-***About Queen Anne and her friend Lady Sarah. Starring Emma Stone, Rachel Weisz, and Olivia Colman. Colman is a strong contender for Best Actress. Film was good, not great.
Green Book-****Fabulous film but it will be overlooked. Great performances by Mahershala Ali and Viggo Mortensen. Ali should win for best supporting actor. Think Driving Miss Daisy in reverse.
If Beale Street Could Talk-***Based on James Baldwin's story of a woman who seeks to clear the name of her wrongly accused lover and prove his innocence. Acting was superb.
On The Basis of Sex-**Entertaining, but not as good as the television documentary about RBG.
The Mule-****. One of my year's favorites. Clint Eastwood is spectacular. Don't miss this one!
The Vice-****. Although this received only fair reviews, I thought it was quite good. Christian Bale as Cheney, Sam Rockwell as George Bush, and Amy Adams as Lynne Cheney give stellar performances. Adams may nab Best Supporting Actress for this.
The Wife-****. An older woman questions her choice of husband and abandoning her career for him. Glenn Close will take the Best Actress Award for her role.
The Upside-**. Not a great movie, but I still liked it. Bryan Cranston and Kevin Hart are terrific.
So my predictions are: Black Panther/Best Movie; Black Klansman/Best Director; Rami Malek/Best Actor; Best Supporting Actor/Mahershala Ali; Best Actress/Glen Close; Best Supporting Actress/Regina King; Best Song/Lady Gaga.
PODCASTS
Mobituaries-Fans of Mo Rocca will love this series. Tune in to hear about Audrey Hepburn, or the fascinating story of famous JFK impersonator, Vaughn Meader. Each episode is about 45 minutes long. Listen to and from work. Most enjoyable!
Sunday Sitdown With Willie Geist-Listen to interesting interviews with the likes of Trevor Noah, Bradley Cooper, and other big names in music and pop culture. Willie is the bomb-love him and his interviews. Next superstar in the news-he is super talented.
PRODUCTS
Double Good Popcorn-delicious and a great way to give to charity. 50% of each item goes directly to your favorite charity. Sixteen flavors-Check out their website at Doublegood.com.
Heatonist.com-hot sauce gifts for those who want to spice it up. Tons of options starting at $14.
Fairytale Brownies-This is my "go to" gift. I send these all the time. There are 12 fudgy flavors in 3 different sizes and the best part is they are individually wrapped. Everyone loves them. Check out their site and also available on Amazon. Prices start at $20.95.
Kopari Coconut Body Glow-Skin illuminator for dry, dull skin. You can mix it into your favorite lotion for a subtler shimmer. $44 Sephora. Also available on QVC.
Carter and Jane Everything Oil-Prickly pear oil that replaces all other products. Can be used as eye, face, lip, neck and décolletage moisturizer. Also comes in a body oil. Before purchasing read about the aroma-no fragrance is used but prickly pear has a distinct aroma. $52 for the body oil, and $128 for the everything oil. CarterandJane.com.
Hammitt Limited Edition Bryant Bag-Soft leather purse with coveted external cell phone pocket. Stylish and a great purse for travel. Comes in different sizes and cross body option. $495
LITERATURE PICKS
Golden Child-Debut novel by Claire Adam. Sara Jessica Parker's second pick for Hogarth Publishing.
The Plot is about twin boys growing up in Trinidad and their struggles.
The Tournament-by Matthew Reilly. A thriller that takes place during Ottoman Empire and the story involves chess and a murder.
Where The Crawdads Sing-by Delia Owens. A murder mystery and a coming of age novel.
Becoming-by Michelle Obama. Superbly written by the First Lady. I am told the audio is even more fabulous because she narrates her memoir.
In Pieces-by Sally Field. Also a memoir which covers her lonely childhood and how it shaped her life as a daughter and a mother.
They Can't Kill Us-Pulitzer Prize Winner Wesley Lowery discusses the "totality of the American devaluation of black lives. Inspired by Ferguson Uprising and fatal shooting of Michael Brown in 2014.
FINALLY-LET'S EAT: LOCAL RESTAURANTS
Bottle Hill Tavern-13 Waverly Place, Madison. Formerly Poor Herbie's, this was taken over by Pal's owners. Yes, they have the mushroom soup, Burgers, and open hot turkey sandwich from the West Orange Establishment. Lots of great fare for lunch or dinner and a bar too. No reservations.
Central and Main-3 Central Ave., Madison. American eatery by the same owners of South and Pine in Morristown. Vegetarian friendly. Open for lunch and dinner. BYO.
Da Pepo-54 Fairfield Street, Montclair. Small plates, pasta, salads and paninis. 19 seats and no reservations. Go early! BYO.
Fox and Falcon-19 Valley Street, South Orange. Formerly Ricaltons. Burgers, steaks, fish. Craft Beers and fun cocktails. The chef's pasta is supposedly beyond fabulous-he was the executive chef at Del Posto in the city.
Grain and Cane-250 Connell Drive, Berkley Heights. Raw Bar, steaks, seafood, burgers and fun sides. Has a bar.
Moe's Bistro-535 Central Ave., New Providence. Varied menu for dinner, less options at lunch. They take reservations and it's BYO. Don't be fooled by it's Best Western location!
Montclair Social-499 Bloomfield Ave. Montclair. Short Hills lawyer opened this with the idea of music, cocktails and varied menu of nibbles or entrees. Opened for brunch on weekends as well.
The Pasta Shop-13 First Avenue, Denville. Handmade pastas. Papperdelle Bolognese and the garlic bread are not to be missed. Only 36 seats which are always full. Be prepared to wait. BYO.
Pucciarello's-34 Ridgedale Ave., East Hanover. Good, hearty Italian food. Try the chopped salad and the inside out meatball stuffed with spaghetti. Lots of options. Nicely managed. Great for Saturday night or Family dinners on Sunday. They take reservations and it's BYO.
This ought to keep you busy until Spring! Peace Out. One B
Monday, February 11, 2019
FEBRUARY'S FILMS, FOOD, PRODUCTS, PODCASTS AND LITERATURE
Winter is upon us and for me that means even more indoor time to read, listen, shop on line, and venture out to get sustenance. It's almost Oscar time so I will start the list with Films.
FILMS
A Star is Born-**** Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga star in this remake. Loved it.
Ben Is Back-
FILMS
A Star is Born-**** Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga star in this remake. Loved it.
Ben Is Back-
Friday, February 8, 2019
February Follies
With Winter upon us and the winds a blowing, I have seen lots of movies, watched lots of great television
Thursday, January 10, 2019
"I'm Mad as Hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore"
To all my friends who are Republicans, I apologize for the rant that I am about to shout. I have tried not to venture into political opinions when writing my blog. But truthfully, I can't hold back anymore. I respect whatever anyone believes politically. But please don't tell me that you endorse Donald Trump. He lies to the country each and every day. He is totally unqualified to run this country. He acts like a two year old throwing tantrums and he twitters to change the dialogue when he doesn't get his way. It doesn't matter to me if you are far left or far right. What matters to me (and it should to all of you) is having an honest, intelligent, empathetic, informed individual looking out for our country. This man doesn't have a clue. At least surround yourself with intelligent, experienced people who would advise you to do the right thing. But, no one stays with him for long, because they can't tolerate his behavior. So as Peter Finch in Network says, "GET MAD. Get up out of your chairs. Go to the window. Open it. Stick your head out and yell, I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take this anymore."
"We know things are bad. They are worse than bad."
Have you seen Donald Trump Jr.'s instagram statement today? He asks, "You know why you can enjoy a day at the zoo? Because walls work. Is he actually saying a border wall is like zoo fence which protects you from animals (immigrants)? OMG-I can't even believe those words could be uttered out of any human being's mouth. Where is the compassion and empathy this country is known for? I wonder if Mueller will show him how well walls work....
Let's discuss Donald Trump Sr. ( I can't bear to address him as the President) who compared immigrants to a bowl of skittles in which some of the candies are poisoned. How can anyone support this man? He sets a horrendous example to our youth and to the world. Promoting hate and intolerance is not what this country was built on.
"Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamb beside the golden door."
Do you even realize how severely this government shut down affects our country? Do you fly on planes for vacation or business? Think twice and good luck-The FAA who inspects planes and who certifies pilot training are furloughed. No one is inspecting your plane before take off. Or if someone is, they are an overworked skeleton crew is doing all of it with out pay. There is virtually no safety oversight on your flight today. Air traffic controllers are working with no pay. It is unconscionable. The irony is Trump is so concerned about allowing terrorists into our country at the borders. Yet, for the past 20 days they can basically just fly in. TSA agents aren't being paid, but have to show up for work. Imagine the mental state and morale of all these airport employees forced to work, and not getting paychecks.
What else is being affected? I'll tell you. The Department of Homeland Security, the Justice Department, Housing and Urban Development, Commerce, The Treasury, Transportation, and Food Stamps.
The EPA is not operating at full strength. There are sensors to detect air pollution and chemicals in the air, and these reports (about the pollution) are delayed. Therefore, we are unaware of the air quality as it's happening in real time.
The FDA says most food inspections are halted during the shutdown. The agency typically conducts roughly 160 inspections per week and now there are none. These checks search for bug infestations, unclean conditions and contamination. Beware of seafood and cheese as well as veggies. VERY SCARY.
As of today, there are 800,000 Federal employees furloughed without pay. They don't know how they will pay their mortgage, rent, electric bills, phone bills or buy food.
There is a need to reopen the government whether Trump gets a wall or not. He can sign a bill to do that. Republicans and Democrats MUST end this insanity. People want to work, and want to get paid.
And, let me remind you that the terrorists and the gun violence that has occurred in this country in the past years is not performed by immigrants seeking refuge from horrific conditions in their native countries and trying to come to the U.S. through our borders. Rather,the violence has been by people who came through airports, or who have lived in the U.S. for years and often they are U.S. Citizens with guns. Too bad the NRA doesn't shut down-JUST SAYING.
Peace out-Oneb
"We know things are bad. They are worse than bad."
Have you seen Donald Trump Jr.'s instagram statement today? He asks, "You know why you can enjoy a day at the zoo? Because walls work. Is he actually saying a border wall is like zoo fence which protects you from animals (immigrants)? OMG-I can't even believe those words could be uttered out of any human being's mouth. Where is the compassion and empathy this country is known for? I wonder if Mueller will show him how well walls work....
Let's discuss Donald Trump Sr. ( I can't bear to address him as the President) who compared immigrants to a bowl of skittles in which some of the candies are poisoned. How can anyone support this man? He sets a horrendous example to our youth and to the world. Promoting hate and intolerance is not what this country was built on.
"Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamb beside the golden door."
Do you even realize how severely this government shut down affects our country? Do you fly on planes for vacation or business? Think twice and good luck-The FAA who inspects planes and who certifies pilot training are furloughed. No one is inspecting your plane before take off. Or if someone is, they are an overworked skeleton crew is doing all of it with out pay. There is virtually no safety oversight on your flight today. Air traffic controllers are working with no pay. It is unconscionable. The irony is Trump is so concerned about allowing terrorists into our country at the borders. Yet, for the past 20 days they can basically just fly in. TSA agents aren't being paid, but have to show up for work. Imagine the mental state and morale of all these airport employees forced to work, and not getting paychecks.
What else is being affected? I'll tell you. The Department of Homeland Security, the Justice Department, Housing and Urban Development, Commerce, The Treasury, Transportation, and Food Stamps.
The EPA is not operating at full strength. There are sensors to detect air pollution and chemicals in the air, and these reports (about the pollution) are delayed. Therefore, we are unaware of the air quality as it's happening in real time.
The FDA says most food inspections are halted during the shutdown. The agency typically conducts roughly 160 inspections per week and now there are none. These checks search for bug infestations, unclean conditions and contamination. Beware of seafood and cheese as well as veggies. VERY SCARY.
As of today, there are 800,000 Federal employees furloughed without pay. They don't know how they will pay their mortgage, rent, electric bills, phone bills or buy food.
There is a need to reopen the government whether Trump gets a wall or not. He can sign a bill to do that. Republicans and Democrats MUST end this insanity. People want to work, and want to get paid.
And, let me remind you that the terrorists and the gun violence that has occurred in this country in the past years is not performed by immigrants seeking refuge from horrific conditions in their native countries and trying to come to the U.S. through our borders. Rather,the violence has been by people who came through airports, or who have lived in the U.S. for years and often they are U.S. Citizens with guns. Too bad the NRA doesn't shut down-JUST SAYING.
Peace out-Oneb
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