Prioritizing Self Care

I never make New Year's resolutions. That's my only resolution-not to make any. But, over the last few years, I have experienced a lot more anxiety than I did in my younger years. I'm sure 95% of this anxiety stems from the current political atmosphere, the blatant hate crimes, the constant mass shootings, the ongoing Israeli and Ukraine wars, and frankly, the daily news. As self preservation, the one thing I can try and control is taking care of myself. This involves setting aside time just for me-and only me. In what ways can I achieve this? I can get a facial or a massage; a manicure or pedicure; see a movie or a show; exercise at the gym or go for a long walk; read a book or listen to a podcast. Caring for yourself is an act of survival. If you nourish your body properly, you will become more productive. We all need to relax, decompress, and rest. If you need assistance with an issue or it seems too overwhelming to deal with on your own, don't be afraid to ask for help. And, dont make excuses about not having enough time to exercise. "Those who think they have no time for exercise will sooner or later have to find time for illness." [Edward Stanley] When I'm feeling anxious, stressed, or depressed; the first thing I do is turn off the news. If I'm driving, I turn the channel to music which always puts me in a better place. Stop saying YES when what you really want to say is NO! Create boundaries with the people you care about. Friends, family and colleagues will hopefully respect and understand your requests. Be honest and don't lie. Everyone's time and energy is precious, and we must try to prioritize ourselves and honor others in the process.. Ask yourself-will saying yes prevent me from focusing on something more important? Will it make you feel angry, more tired, or burnt out? If so, offer alternatives that may work for both parties. Take some time to consider the consequences of committing to a request or saying yes. I am constantly trying to please others. I get pure joy out of being a good wife, a kind and caring friend, a loving sister, a devoted aunt, and an everpresent, adoring grandmother. It makes me happy to see others happy. It gives me pleasure to help out someone in need. I love to cook for others, buy gifts, entertain, and provide comic relief! But,that should not negate that you can nurture yourself as well. In essence, Save something of you for you. "Self compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves we would give to others." [Christopher K. Germer] PEACE OUT-ONE B