"Who Am I, and where have I been, and where am I going?" Carl Sandburg

This is the time of year for self reflection. Many of us vow to make New Year's resolutions and promise to keep them. We pledge to get rid of the clutter, exercise more, eat healthier, drink less, be kinder-the list goes on forever. The sad reality is we probably forget about these resolutions about a month into the New Year. Rather than make resolutions we can't keep, we should look back on the year/and our lives and ask what are our regrets? How can I do better? Can I be a more loving spouse, a better parent, can I perform better at my job, can I be a kinder, more compassionate friend? Do I continue to grow, learn, remain curious, try new experiences? Each of us experience events that alter our lives. Having a child or a grandchild, the loss of a job, or starting a new job, the illness of a parent of child, a friendship dissolves, the loss of a pet, children go off to college or get married, the death of someone close to you, the isolation of a pandemic-It doesn't matter what is different or has shifted. We just need to recognize that life experiences constantly change us, and we need to let those close to us, know it. Acknowledging these changes requires adaptation and reexamination. No matter our age; beliefs and values are always under construction. This is a good time to reintroduce yourselves to your partner or spouse. Fall in love all over again. Try to acknowledge the good things your partner does-what do you appreciate? It can be anything that makes you happy-did they plan a trip, pay the bills, take out the garbage, fold the laundry, make a dinner reservation pick up the cleaning.....Don't underestimate communicating your gratitude! It goes a long way in a relationship (whether it is being voiced to a friend, partner, spouse, work associate, or child). Many of us like consistency and feel safe. But others, feel trapped with too much consistency. There is a balance. Try new things. Reprioritize what we view as important and help others understand who we have become. Don't be afraid to express your fears, hopes, wishes, and dreams. Continue to grow at any age. Don't be complacent. Become a better version of who you are! "One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else." K.L. Toth Wishing you a Fabulous 2023! Happy and Healthy New Year! PEACE OUT-ONE B